Has anyone been rejected? And when I mean rejected, I mean in a heart, crumbling way? It doesnt have to be an "asking out" rejection. It could be a date rejection, or anything like that. If you do, please go right ahead and tell us about it. No one isn't going to make fun of you, and I'm pretty sure most of us experienced it. Oh, and please, don't be rustled if you think yours is too long. If you guys wont mind, Ill tell you guys about mine.
Last year, there was this girl I spotted walking around the halls in my school. We had one class together. Lets name her Lea. Lea was smart, funny, and a bit awkward (I found that a bit cute lol). We HARDLY ever talked. We exchanged a few words time to time, and started small conversations. One night, I check Facebook to see if anythings new. I get a friend request, and it happens to be her. I wasn't jumping across the walls in enjoyment, or screaming to the world, because I didnt really care less. Whilst I was on my part-time job, I sat down and popped out my phone. Business was quiet today, so why the hell not? Hours passed, and I was dying of boredom. An idea came in mind. Since I just got a new friend on facebook (lol) I might as well say hi to her. A few words, and the message was off. But the one message changed my life. Everyday, we would talk about things that we had in common. Music, our nationality (sort of) and how much we hated specific people. Days felt like minutes when I chatted with her. My feelings grew for her, little by little. She was the person that almost messaged me and started the conversation. I thought she had atleast a spec of feelings for me. She was the only girl that I actually dont mind walking in the cold winter rain with, or waking up at 3am in the morning, finding a message from her saying, "I cant sleep." I soon found out that she was moving in the middle of summer. Sure I was a bit heart broken, but it was fun when it lasted. So I wanted her to have one memory of me that she'll never forget. 4 months passed, and the end of the year is coming. Our school decided to brew up an Annual dance that was in about 2 weeks. That's when it hit me. I thought of a simple, yet sweet plan to ask her to the dance. (Please note, I just wanted to see her smile, and atleast dance with me. I never wanted to ask her out whatsoever.) I had the help of my Drama teacher to help me. Lets name Drama teacher Mrs. Betty. Mrs. Betty was known amongst the students as, "The Best Teacher," and I couldent agree more with them. During class, Mrs. Betty told us we were going to do a "skit." Of course, she partnered Lea and I to do a duo. Our scene was a steaming, hot sauna. I had to come up with a way for Lea to ask me to take off my jacket. 20 minutes into the skit, I FINALLY talked a way for her to ask me to take if off. I told her I was embarrassed, so I told her to turn the other way. I unzipped my jacket, and hugging my chest, a semi big piece of paper with colorful letters saying, "Lea, will you go to the dance with me?" Was taped to my shirt. You could here the audience gasping lol. After I was done stripping my jacket off, I told her it was okay to look. She took a few seconds to soak everything in, and she smiled and said yes. The whole class cheered, I was happy, yay, whoop dee doo. I knew she was the shy type, and doesn't really like being in the spotlight, so I was planning to apologize to her for putting her in it. The whole day, I felt like I could climb a mountain, or fight a bear. But it all soon went downhill. during that same day. Around 8pm-ish, I went on facebook to apologize to her about putting her on the spotlight, because I never got a chance to actually tell her offline. A message popped up, and I started to read it. It was from Lea. (Note: Messages were altered, and I changed a few words in it). The message said, "Hey. You know what I'm thinking?" I was smiling at this point. I replied saying, "Wachu thinking about?" and I waited watching my screen with a chesire cat smile. But it wiped off my face within a second when I saw what she replied. "Honestly, I was pretty annoyed of what you did during class. After you asked, people assumed that I liked you, and I felt like I was forced to say yes, and if I said no, I wouldve been known as the biggest bitch ever." It took me a few minutes to soak everything up. I really did not think it through. She almost always messaged me everyday, so I was pretty confident that she would say yes, but I was too blind to see the real picture. We had a serious conversation, and I'm pretty sure it was our first, and last. It was like I dropped a mirror, and everything I saw and remembered, was scattered across the room. I apologized to her, and we exchanged a few words, and then I logged off. A couple days passed, and people asked me what I was going to wear for the dance. I really didn't want to tell anyone what really happened, so I made an excuse of saying I coulden't go, because I had work. Ever since that event, we never talked. She never messaged me like she used to, and I didn't want to bother her, so I never did. Months passed, and she was already packing, and heading out. I always wanted to say "Goodbye," but I was too much of a pussy to say it. And now, we're here right now. It left me a scar, and Iv'e always told myself that I'll never attempt anything like that again. People told me she doesn't really care anymore, but I'll just leave her alone. Its been almost a year already, and we never had any contact whatsoever. I know, most of you are thinking, "Wow. this guys a pussy. If he doesnt have the balls to sober up again, and forget about it, then he should just rot in a room alone." Yes. I know I am. I shouldve just forget about it and message her, but I think it's best if it remains like this right now. And she was never a bitch. She has every right to get mad at me. It was my fault for asking her infront of everyone. Terribly sorry if this was too long. But if anyone has anything to say, don't be shy and tell us.

I think that it was very brave of you what you did. I hate it when a friendship dies. But I guess it is what it is right?

You're still hurting over this huh?

I bet we'll both be hurting over people that we used to know for a long time.

Me and my girlfriend broke up this week. Not because we didn't love each other, but because of . . . "unnatural" circumstances.

We were star-crossed from the very beginning. I'm surprised it lasted as long as it did. And yeah. Thanks for the reassurance, but my story will take way too long lol.

Maybe you can find it. It's on here somewhere~

Either way, I wish you the best and maybe one day you two will cross paths and laugh it over.

I think It is best to think Optimistic. Opposite to popular belief. Because they say that "If you never think positive, you will never know disappointment."

Yeah, that may be true, but if you never strive for your aspirations, who else will?


It's best to suffer a little heart ache and force happiness into your life, than to dream of sadness and have it fail to surprise you when it arrives.

Best of luck to your future *Smiles*

Hey, I think it was brave of you to ask her to the dance. I'm not trying to badmouth her, but I think her response was a bit selfish. She might have not felt the same way, but it seemed to me that she hadn't taken your feelings into consideration when replying.

That said, I wish you happiness and love your future.

Um, I would like to share my story as well, if anyone is willing to hear it out....

Back in my sophomore year in high school, I met a guy who I'll call Logan since I still find it painful to say his name (You guys might be thinking, "Oh God, another emotional chick...Just get over yourself already!").

Anyway, I was very shy back then, and hardly spoke to anyone I didn't know since I was self-conscious and unconfident. First, I had met his brother in one of my classes, as well as a few of his brother's (as well as his) friends. We all had common interests, so I decided to start hanging out with them. One day, after school, I wanted to wait for them so I could get to know them more.

That was when Logan appraoched me. He greeted me with a smile and, since I was shy, I looked down and said, "Hi." in a quiet voice. He started chatting with me and was gesturing about since he's a very animated person. I had my phone out to check what time it was when he accidently smacked my hand. I had just gotten that phone over the summer, and I wanted to keep it as new-looking as possible. The phone skidded across the concrete and I was shocked. I picked it up and saw that it had been indeed scratched.

He kept apologizing to me over that. I did feel angry at him, but I hardly knew the guy, so I couldn't just up and yell at him. I had to repeatedly accept his apology that day.

After that, we started hanging out more and more with our little group of friends. I know I must sound like a nerd when saying this, but we all loved anime and went to our school's Anime Club every Friday. When my new friends were trying to get to know me, they asked me a lot of questions, some which made me uncomfortable, but I answered them none the less. They asked me how I normally act. Since I loved the anime Bleach, I replied, "I act like Rukia Kuchiki, from Bleach." I wasn't lying, my personality is very much like hers.

After that, they asked a bunch of questions to try to compare us. When Logan asked, "Do you get insulted when people call you short?" I automatically smacked him. I am very sensitive about my short height (I'm 5'1"), and for me, I've developed the habit of slapping whoever makes fun of my height. It's a bad habit, I know.

After that, a sort of comical relationship (purely platonic friendship at this point) started up. He would constantly call me "Shorty", "Short", or some other variation that would irritate me to no end and I would end up punching him really hard. He didn't like being punched by me (Who would?) so he learned to run away after insulting me and my anger drove me to chase him around, despite my worry of what other people thought of me. In a way, he helped me out of my shyness just by insulting me.

Sometimes though, he was unexpectedly nice to me, which would constantly surprise me. I guess this was the trigger, what made me start liking him.

When I needed to vent about something, he would listen to me, and when he needed to vent, I also listened to him. It was still friendship to the both of us, nothing more.

I will tell you right now, Logan was a senior. I was a sophomore. Most of our friends were also sophomores, which I thought was strange. Since we hung out so often, I always forgot he was a senior.

Near the end of the year, I realized, despite how irritating he could be, I had feelings for him. When I thought of how we spent the year, I thought he had also liked me. However, I had this stupid, noble idea of not telling him my feelings since he was going to college and I didn't want to burden him with a long-distance relationship, if he even felt the same.

So I did something I regret. I let him go without telling him anything. I had his number, so I could call him anytime I wanted, but again, I had this too noble idea that I would be a burden to him in college. So I didn't.

We almost never saw each other after that. I invited him to my birthday party, just a small thing between friends, but he didn't go because he had classes that day. I felt very disappointed by this.

I felt a bit sad, so I finally told one of my most trusted guy friends about my situation. He hasn't told anyone else to this day, which I greatly appreciate. He helped me through it and even tried helping me.

When my friend's birthday came around, me and Logan were both invited. I tried to subtly get his attention, which worked for a time. I felt happy about that, that we could still talk like normal.

He then invited me to his birthday party (yes, our birthdays are very close to one another). It wasn't actually a direct invitation. The friend I had entrusted with my secret asked him on Skype (I don't have one, which is why I hardly get to see him.) and he said that I could come too.

When I went, I acted as casually as I could, when I was really excited since I had never been to his house before. Really, all they (him and my friends) did was play Halo. I'm really bad at those games, so I decided not to. I was getting really bored. That was when Logan invited me to his room, to use his computer so I had something to do other than watch them.

So, I went in his room, feeling a bit happy that he was doing all this for me. I sat in his huge desk chair, feeling tiny as I curled my legs to my chest. Then, his computer wasn't working, so he had to fix it and we were really close to each other. I still hoped I wasn't blushing.

He came in occasionally to check up on me (He jokingly said he was only doing so to see if his room had been destroyed or not), which made me smile.

After I had left, all I could think about was how happy I felt after the party and how we had spent some time together, though not much happened.

Then, it all came crashing down on me when Logan revealed to my other friends that he liked this other girl at his college. He had went into a rant about it with my friend Brandon and confessed that he loved her a lot and that he would do anything for her even though they hardly knew each other.

When I had found this out, I didn't know what I was feeling. It was a mix of anger, jealousy, confusion, and depression. I had went home that day and cried to myself. I didn't feel good about anything for a while.

I was so naive. I assumed that he had liked me just because my feelings were clouding my judgement. Maybe he had, once. It doesn't make me feel any better.

I'm sorry if anyone thought it was too long or cheesy. I just need to vent....

I have been rejected just recently (I am a guy by the way, I just use this name online). Anyway, there is this girl. We dated last year for a couple months. We broke up for who knows what. It's probably because I was a terrible boyfriend back then. I still like her today and she says she does too but I don't know what the issue is with her. She tells me she likes me yet she doesn't seem to put any effort into it. I try every single day to try and hang out with her yet there are no results. Nothing is happening! I try weekly to ask her on a date and she seems always busy. I don't know if she is just avoiding me or she really is busy. I just keep getting rejected over and over again. I really like her and we talk often! Almost everyday and it's not weird at all. We talk for hours and hours nonstop but I still feel like it's not going anywhere and it sucks! People tell me to move on but I'm not ready to move on. She tells me she still likes me and I still like her.. I don't know what to do. I'm not giving up yet, that's for sure but I hate being rejected by her every time. I don't know what to do anymore. How can I get her to go on a date with me? I mean, there's no way she's busy every single day and plus! IF SHE REALLY DID LIKE ME THEN WOULDN'T SHE BE TRYING TO HANG OUT WITH ME TOO???? I don't get her..

One word for the OP: Paragraphs.

But in all seriousness, at least you tried. I've been seriously rejected myself, about four years ago now. Still have my feelings for her, and I know now that she'd never feel the same. But hey, I tried.

At the time, and throughout high school, I was pretty frustrated and heartbroken, though, having to see her every day and be reminded that it would never happen. But since I graduated, despite my feelings for her every time even her name is brought up, for the most part I keep moving forward.

Also, I think I just recently got rejected by sudden implementation of the Silent Treatment. Gotta say, that hurts a bit. I don't even get half an explanation, she just stopped replying to me altogether.

I hope the "sage" function still works as I have checked it and very much do not wish to necropost.

I have rejected myself a while ago, and. It feels awful. Because I rejected myself by rejecting everyone around me. I want to be close to someone who I don't find annoying but the only people like that I don't want to be with because I feel like I'll only be causing myself or them future problems.

i got rejected by a girl i really really liked. im her bestfriend
we have been friends for a very long time. shes cute, funny, and smart. last month i asked her to be my girlfriend but i got rejected i was sad but i didnt want her to feel guilty so i told her im alright. but i still love her and want to be with her we hang out as friends. but it hurts. rejection sucks :/

Menstruation 's jus' a form of rejection.

Also, yes, I've been rejected a lot.