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On Religion and Relationships (5)

1 Name: Di Nardo : 2012-12-31 02:31 ID:E2m9UwMr [Del]

I just have a few questions on the topic above.
Faithfuls, would you spend the rest of your life with an atheist, if they fully supported your religion?
What if they were still unsure of their religious view? A person of a religion unlike your own?

To people whose religions scold intercourse without the purpose of procreation, would you use protection with your life partner? If you knew you were going to spend the rest of your life with a person, would you have sex with them before you are married? What if you are unsure, but you are in love with your partner and they in love with you?

Atheists, would you be okay with your life partner being actively religious? Is there only a certain amount of practice of faith you can handle in a potential mate?

A lot of questions, but I am very curious. Thank you!

2 Name: Mimori : 2012-12-31 10:32 ID:TFqaQMJC [Del]

yup..I would actually.. If its the person I love and supports me..
If they were unsure.. then you don't force them.. eventually they'll reach a decision.. all I could do was support whatever choice he makes..

3 Name: dxb!!1iXgfdW/ : 2013-01-02 00:49 ID:HI9/cGWz [Del]

I, being an atheist, would not be against dating and marrying someone who believes in a religion as long as they did not force the religion on me. I wouldn't go to a church or participate in any religious rituals(with minor exceptions like a marriage ceremony, and maybe holidays), but i would not try to discourage her from her religious duties.

4 Name: Ain !nakfkSzUbM : 2013-03-17 19:10 ID:VVLa5LfQ [Del]

>>1 "Faithfuls, would you spend the rest of your life with an atheist, if they fully supported your religion?" Well, if he was an atheist, he would never 'fully support' my religion. I mean, atheists believe that God does not exist by definition. If an atheist supported someone in their religion, then that 'atheist' wouldn't really be an atheist, would they?

"What if they were still unsure of their religious view? A person of a religion unlike your own?" As long as this hypothetical person was spiritual in one way or another, then I would be fine with it. However, for someone who had a completely different religion, I would personally not dislike them and I would be fine with having them as my partner if it weren't for the problems it would pose for future children. It is difficult to live in a household in which the two parents have different religions, after all. Putting that into perspective, I would probably never become partners with someone like that.

"To people whose religions scold intercourse without the purpose of procreation, would you use protection with your life partner?" I plan to only have intercourse when it is for the purpose of having a baby, anyway. I don't plan to have intercourse for any other reason. It's not because of the rules of my religion, but because I personally don't want that.

"If you knew you were going to spend the rest of your life with a person, would you have sex with them before you are married?" No. First of all, it would be impossible to know if I was going to spend the rest of my life with a person, no matter how much I would want to and how much I am against divorce- I'm no prophet. And even if I DID have the ability to know such a thing, there's no rush. It's not like one absolutely has to have sex as soon as possible, right? Besides, I don't plan on having sex until a long time after marriage.

"What if you are unsure, but you are in love with your partner and they in love with you?" Same answer as above.

It's perfectly okay to have questions; just be careful. After all, "curiosity killed the cat". I hope my answers are good enough for you. ^^

5 Name: Feiself : 2013-03-17 23:59 ID:8mOUbhYc [Del]

I can honestly answer this because my love and I are in a similar situation. I am a christian, yet my fiance is not.

How does that work?

Well... I have strange views about churches, similar to him in fact. I have prayed about this for years, and always get to the same conclusion. We've been together for nearly a decade now, and we have only grown closer. If God really wanted us apart, there was a key moment where it could have happened, and we only grown closer. If that wasn't a hint, i don't know what is.

As for the sex, I find that the fear of having a child is more of a deterrent then if it is morally correct. I have only kissed one guy, truly loved one guy, and told one guy my deepest secrets. The love comes before the lust. That being said I have been with him, but its rare because of the fear of pregnancy. I actually think i have a psychological phobia of some sort its that extreme. But I'm getting ahead of myself, and my love of psychology.

Point is that we talk about everything. I think every relationship is different and its impossibly to categorize them perfectly. For me, I firmly don't believe in coincidence. Everything happens for a reason to me.

I hope I've been slightly helpful. :)