So I have(had?) this friend. We where pretty close. I could tell him anything and he would always help me out. Well recently I've been struggling emotionally. I went to him for some help a few weeks ago and he tried but I didn't even know what the problem was so he kind of failed. Ever sense then, he's been completely ignoring me inside and outside of school. He hasn't bothered to tell me why. Does anyone have any ideas on why he would? Does anyone have any ideas on how to mend our friendship? This guy was like a brother to me and him ignoring me is just making me feel worse about myself. Any ideas?
Well, I would say that your first step would be to just go right up to him and start talking to him. Even though he's ignoring you, that doesn't mean that you have to stay away from him and try to figure this all out by yourself. That won't get you anywhere. First: Approach him. Ask him if you guys could talk in private that day after school or something. If he says no right there, then there's obviously something bothering him. But don't just give up, if he really means that much to you, then you'll make sure to do anything to restore your friendship. Tell him what you told us: That he's like a brother to you and that your friendship with him means so much to you and that you don't want to lose him because that would greatly affect you. At this point, if he's still pushing you away, then that's when you need to back off because either A) He doesn't feel the same way and just wants you both to go your separate ways (which, if this is the case, you'll have to learn to deal with it) or B) he's just not thinking right and saying hurtful things he doesn't mean. I'm obviously not going to be around to view this conversation take place, so I can't tell you for sure what he's feeling, but usually body language (normal or something like not making eye contact, hands messing with each other) and the tone of his voice will tell you how he feels and stuff. I hope this helped a little bit :P I've been in a similar situation like this with my previous bestfriend who I viewed as a brother. But things ended up going downhill because he's just changed so much that I had to make the decision to accept the fact that him and I don't get along and go our separate ways. But yeah, anyway, if you have any questions, just ask me and... yeah :] lol
