Hey guys, I was just invited here by another member, and this is exactly what I needed. I need some help with some stuff. Maybe some other Dollars members could be the support and advice I need.

Okay, since I didn't want a massive block of text in my opener, here's my issue. I'm in a long-distance relationship with a girl I've loved madly for seven years, and everything is wonderful, at least it was until December rolled around. I've been a mess of nerves, and separation anxiety. I've lost nearly six pounds this week, and haven't eaten in three days.
I think this might have something to do with my biological family on my father's side. He abandoned me when I was very young, 4 to be precise, and that has affected my life negatively for as long as I can remember. Well, last year, around Christmas, the same thing happened, but I was basically excommunicated by that entire side of my family. I'm scared I'm projecting my fears of abandonment on to her, and causing a massive rift in our relationship. I just wanted some advice, that's all. Thanks, guys.

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Long distance relationships are complicated at times. I had similar anxiety moments with my BF, I just tried not to think about it all too often and did really fun things with my friends. Also, I used meditation to calm my fears.
:) Hope I helped

I think you should really talk to her. Do you love her? If so, I'd say just spill the beans to her. She might know that your father left you at a young age, and she might know that you are being ignored by his side of the family, but I think it would be good to tell her more.

What I mean by that is how you are treating her as an outcome of what has happened. She is sort of a cushion to the blow. You feel me?

I've been both a victim and a witness of many situations where coming from a broken family has lead to a fear of abandonment. Let me tell you this: be cautious of how close you get. There's a certain point where a close but healthy relationship crosses over to a codependent relationship. Do not, DO NOT let yourself become too clingy. Be wary of the desire to be involved in her entire life; it will ruin everything.
All that's good advice for what NOT to do, but you probably also want advice on what TO do. >>5 has the right idea. I would recommend just telling her about the problem and what you're going through, as well as your fears of what it's doing. If she understands that, she'll probably be willing to even help you. Tell her to let you know when she feels you're projecting your fear on her, that way you can control it better.

I actually managed to power though it last night. We talked about it, and for now, I guess, everything is okay. >>6 actually hit the nail on the head. I was becoming kind of codependent on her. Now that I've started to realize what I'm doing, and talked to her about it. I'm sure everything will be okay. Thanks everyone!