Okay, so here you can write about ALL the problems you have with friendships, your stories about broken bonds and your feelings about them.That way ,other dollars members(including me) can give you advice or share their friendship experiences with you...
So, I'll start with my story:
Two years ago, I entered a highschool(like any other normal teenage girl would do).There, I met a girl.Let's call her M.
We eventually became friends and started hanging out together .Neither me , nor M knew anyone at that highschool.That gave us the perfect chance to get to know each other better.A week after I met M. , I met two other girls who also became my friends.Lets call them C. and Mo.I thought that us 4 could become the PERFECT group of friends, so I was the one who introduced C. to M.(They both already knew Mo.That day, I made a horrible mistake)
At start, everything seemed perfect.Me, C., Mo.and M. were together all the time and I was really happy.However,after that, C. and M. started hanging out together, leaving me and Mo. behing!Meanwhile, Mo.and I had also found a new friend which we'll call H .In the end, us three decited to stick together.At start, things were great with them ,too, but after some months, C. and M. became popular and started hanging out with some other girls.It was then that Mo. changed her mind and started following them around.I've always thought of Mo. as my best friend in that school ,so I went with her.The funny part is: C. still thinks about Mo. as her friend,but I'm not sure of what she thinks about me .I mean she's usually teasing me (not much) and calling me a dork.However, I'm not sure whether that's friendly teasing or not.The worst part is that because of her, Mo calls me a dork too now. M. doesn't really seem to care about me.That's all!I'm finally finished!Also, I'd like to add that I have other friends at that school who are WAAAY nicer to me than M.,Mo. and C. Do you think I should still think of those three as my friends, or not?

Oh...My god...I am in the same situation, kind of. I have a group of about 4 friends, (Not including me.) Lets call the first A. I met A 2 years ago at my school. (I am in middle school, and we met in the same middle school homeroom. She's a 7th grader I'm 8th) She seemed like a nice girl at first, but over time, her true self started to mature and appear. A year before this happened 2 more girls were added to our group. Lets call them G and P. Ok, so me, G, P, and A were best friends that year, we were always together. However, this year things have changed... We got another girl in our group, lets call her K. G and K are girly girls, me, P and A being neutral. G and K quickly became best friends, but that wasn't the problem. A changed in that year, she bullies us, verbally and physically. (Not like "I'm gunna beat you up." but dragging us around WAY to hard. She gave K bruises on her arms!) She pulls and drags us around even tugging on our hair sometimes when we have told her repeatedly to STOP. Always saying that everything got better when she's around. My close friends quickly split onto two sides...
G and K are the red team, and P and A are the blue. (P is kinda neutral in this.) A says that P is on her side, but she tends to lie, A LOT. G and K are fine with me still being friends with A. (Their still distant friends with P.) However A ISN'T fine with me being friends with G and K. Saying that if I don't pick a side, ( or not stay neutral which is in my nature, I don't pick sides easily.) I will lose her as a friend as well as P. (I don't really know if she agrees with this.)
I don't know what to do anymore, A has been my friend for 2 years. However, I don't know if I want to be her friend anymore...She puts me down every chance she gets, making me feel like dirt. She talks to me as if I don't have a opinion.
So what do you think? Is my old friend A really worth being a friend with any longer? Or do I need to sever my attachments to her.

(Also I sit next to her in class so if I should sever my attachments to her should I wait till the end of the year or till they change the seating arrangements so that she won't get the chance to make me feel more like dirt?)

Otaku(first of all, I appreciate your story a lot), if A puts you down with every chance she gets and makes you feel like dirt, then she doesn't deserve to be your friend anymore...If I were you,I would go with the red team.However,YOU have to think which team is more impotant to you...I mean, I know that A makes you feel like dirt,but are you sure that if you sever your attachments to her and go with the red team,you won't regret it?Are you sure that you won't want her back as a friend?
Only if you are COMPLETELY SURE that you won't regret it,you can choose a team and stick with it.Also,when A starts teasing you,you can ignore it.But,I don't get it...Why is she teasing you when she thinks of you as a friend?You can ask her why she's doing that...
(I know how it feels when your friends treat you badly.It happens to me everyday with C .I can't even talk to her anymore!If I do,she'll ignore me or start teasing me.I'm feeling terrible because of her!But,I know it sounds stupid,I still think of her as my friend and if she ever needed my help in anything,I would gladly help her.So why is she being so mean to me??)

Well mine is I don't believe no where near as detailed and expansive as Otaku's but anyways here it is even tho it isn't that long.

Way back in middle school I had met this friend of mine named Michael, he was around all of our ages and his family was fairly rich for being the average city I lived in, that never mattered to us then. And so he was friends with my best friend Jared, of around 5 or so years basically all of elementary school and about a year of middle before I met Michael so then me, Jared, Michael and another friend of mine we all always hang out and chill every day after school for all 3 years of middle school here. We all had huge plans of what we wanted to do together and how excited we were to actually get to High School and then finally finish public schooling and have the chance to go to College next. So 3 years pasted in a flash was some of the most fun times of my life, then we graduated from middle school and we all went on to high school. That's when it all changed, when all we got to high school we would still hang out at class breaks and lunch times, events, etc but gradually for reasons I still don't know we started hanging out less and less mainly because for me I think it was that since Michael had gotten to high school now, he exposed his arrogance, and started to develop this attitude which he could have been holding back all those years in middle school. So with Michael's new found arrogance, our group of just 4 friends that loved to hang out became a group of either follow Michael around like his gang and do what he says or leave the group and just go make new friends. I wasn't going to follow his stupid ass around for 4 years and give everyone in the school the impression I was one of his drones that did whatever he said so I told him I'm not going to hang out with him or the group anymore and so me and actually my other good friend left the group yet my best friend thru elementary school so of like 6 years decided to stay with him and acted like I didn't exist anymore. So our 4 years of high school pasted not nearly as fast as the 3 years of middle school did, so to this day me, Michael and Jared haven't spoken. Last I heard Michael had gotten married yes married and he is only like 20 but then last year they broke up and she took half of everything he owned so in a very cynical way that made me feel good. I just can't figure out what made my best friend of over 6 years from kindergarten all the way up to the 9th grade just turn on me and treat me like I didn't exist all because I choose not to follow Michael around like his bitch.

Anyways, well that's my story. Thanks for reading if you have been.

>>3 However thats just the thing...The reason why I am always unable to pick sides is because I don't know if I will regret it. Although, maybe as this situation gets worse, (Which I know it will.) I will grow to hate her completely. I have also asked her why she does that to us. Her response was this. "What are you talking about? You do that stuff to me all the time. Like saying you don't want your hair touched then touching G's" She then tugged on my hair...The thing is I stopped touching her hair a LONG time ago, and I only touch G's hair sometimes cause I know she's cool with it. I never TUG on ANYONES hair though...Like I said, I have this erie feeling I am going to end up hating A...I suppose I am just hoping deep down that my old friend is still there (before she got like this...) I don't know why she got like this either. I wish I knew why though. Wish I knew why my old friend is dead. (Meaning it metaphorically....)

>>4 You must have trusted Jared a lot before he turned you on and treated you like you didn't exist...I know how that feels,too,because Mo acts like I don't exist whenever she's with C.And when we first met, she wasn't like that.I guess that now, I finally got to see her true colors and realise that she's a FUCKING TRAITOR who just follows around the popular kids.What I mean is, sometimes people who we really trusted as our friends or thought we knew,weren't really who we thought they were and didn't think of us the same way we thought of them.Or they might have thought of us the same way,but only for some months.After those blissful months,they found some other friends and left us for those new friends...That's what kind of friends Mo and Jared are:the ones that stay with you for some time,but then leave you alone,just when you need them the most...Just when you trust them entirely and think of them as your best friends.That's why I'm never going to trust people again,no matter how kind they are with me.I'm never going to rely on anyone!Never again!!
Also >>5, I think that A still thinks of you as her friend,but is jealous because she thinks that you give all of your attention to the red team...What do your other friends think about the way A treats you all?I'm sure they're not so fond of it!I think you should talk about the problems in your group together with all your friends.You alone can't change A's mind,but with the help of all your friends,I'm sure you'll find a solution!

Once upon a time, there were many people that befriended a young girl named Y, but all hell broke loose when middle school and high school started and they all left her alone in the darkness. The End...

I'm not joking...

>>7 Why did they all leave her alone?I mean,they can't just leave her for no reason.She must have made a mistake!

Practically all my friends have left imprints on my heart. I moved around a lot. 18 and I've lived in about 12 different houses and apartments.

My main problem started when I was five and I realized that I would never see my best friend again. I learned early how people move in and out of my life like needle and thread and since then I've never made much of an effort to keep in touch whenever I move. I've experienced every kind of friends: fake friends, popular friends, loner friends, good friends who leave suddenly for popularity, super smart friends, super stupid friends(those kinds that make think "was he/she kidding? Or were they actually serious??"), sports friends, shopping friends, in class only friends, loner friends, emo friends, stalker friends, mentally challenged friends, bi or gay friends, secret friends, best friends that are like part of your own soul, and friends who are no longer living...
Sometimes through facebook I can find them, but I find it too awkward. Will they remember me will they be mad that I never emailed when I could have? What's my excuse? I did value are friendship.. I just thought I was moving on. I don't understand HOW to keep in touch. Like why do I not find that imperative even though I love these guys to death??

>>9 Wow...12 different houses?That must have been really hard for you!!!You must've been travelling all the time.And when you finally settled down somewhere and started thinking:
I belong here!, then you moved again...You know,I really admire you.I think you're a very strong person!I grew up in my homeland,in the same city.I've never moved to another house and I don't think I would be strong enough to do so.I still remember the day when my BEST friend,Stella moved.She hugged me and then started crying and saying that she'd never see me again.I was so naive back then...Me and her had grown up together,but I thought that I would be fine without her!Well, I was wrong.I realised there was huge emptiness in my heart after she changed towns.As the years were passing by, I moved on and made new friends...But I still miss her,even now.It's not like I never got to see her again,(she visits me,not very often though, and I have her cell number)but,it's just not the same as when we were 8.We were together all day!Literally...My parents were bored of seeing her every day!XD
I hope we'll meet again this Christmas...She lives really far away,so it's been two years since I last saw her!:(

OMG... :')Your stories are ALL so touching!I want to thank you guys from the depths of my heart...You helped me realise that I'm not the only one facing problems in my life.Now I know that EVERY SINGLE PERSON goes through difficulties in life.But in the end,those difficulties help us evolve and get stronger!Those difficulties made us the wonderful people we are today!They helped us become fighters!!!So, I swear that I'll never give up on life.I'll keep up the fight,no matter what comes my way!!!!

>>8 I tried talking her out of it, but it's no use. :/ She tried keeping her friendships close, but found herself just following them around like a dog.

Y thinks they only became her friend because she was asian and she never trusted anyone ever again. Therefore, she locked her heart so far away where no one will ever hurt her again and destroyed the key.

I feel as if my friends are abandoning me and I don't know why... They're one of the last stable things in my life and I fear if I lose them I won't be able to take it anymore. They say they're not but every day I feel like they're just pushing me away... I don't know what the hell to do...

>>13 You should meet new friends. Abandon those ass wipes! You don't deserve treatment from them! All I can say is that there will be people that will become your friend and then shove you out of their circle, but you must cycle through many people in order to find those people who are precious to you.

>>13 I'll have to agree with Yamie on that.You should try to make new friends.However,I know it's not easy to develop new friendships,so don't abandon your old ones(as long as you need them,of course).You should keep hanging out with your old friends,but at the same time,try to make new ones.When you're sure that you've found new friends who you can count on,you should abandon your old ones.And,know that friendships are almost naver stable...Everything has to come to an end,so that something better will happen to you!Remember this:When a door closes,another one opens.Also I know that friendship is something really important,but you should learn to be independent and not rely on your friends.Also,you should be kind and friendly to everyone you know,regardless of how popular they are.Even the most hated people matter and,you might even need their help in the future,so you should be kind to them,too.

T.T Poor Y!!!Her "friends" just abandoned her for no reason!
But,Yamie, why din't you help her?You knew about her problem,right??And you just let her fall into the darkness?
:(

>>16 As I said before, "I tried talking her out of it, but it's no use." She'll only talk to me when she feels like coming out of her shell and I'm willing to help her then. For now, it's best if I leave her alone so she can have her space and time to think.

>>13 I kinda had the same problem, it was before my friends slip up into the red and blue team. (Btw I may be severing my attachments to A, I don't really know yet...possibly after a project that we're doing because if I piss her off now she won't corporate with the group.) It was when we all were still together, (this year of course.) I felt as though A was trying to shut me out of the group, not letting me sit next to G or K. (She would move in-between us forcefully.) I had discussed this with them, and they said that they saw it happening as well. Thats when I knew they were friends that I could trust and not be able to push away. They said they wouldn't let A push me away. Then the split of my friends happened.
Anyway, the point is I know what your going through, and I agree with >>15 and>>14. However if they are friends that you cannot sever your attachments to, try your best to stay near them. (Not like stalking them then they will get annoyed with you.) Just make sure that your being involved with them on a regular basis. (Again, NOT STALKING THEM.) Communication is the key, so if it's a certain person that your feeling your being shut out by. (For instance A) Then consult it with the rest of your friends, see what they think of what they have noticed.
I hoped I helped.

~For a friend~
Found in great sunshines, of smiles to frowns, don't go upside down, the friends go together and leave together, wonderful leaves blow in the summer breeze, growing to right, doing no wrong, trees giving oxygen for life to continue, thinking gets better for older gets wiser, never forgotten good times, apart of you am i, through your memories, you to are with me always, because while we die and live hardships, im apart of your memories.

(I'll never forget you,Bryan)

>>19 I love your poem!:)
Did you write it?

I had a good friend once. We had known each other since we were five. As time went on though we silently started to drift away from each other as we started hanging with other people and we changed. Me, people say for the better him for the worse at least thats what people say now, me im not really sure if its true. One day we had a conversation about are future plans after highschool and all that jazz. I wanted to go to Harvard and study law and do track and field. He wanted to live the "swag" generation life if you know what I mean. Trying to convince him otherwise he went into this big tantrum saying how i thought i was better than everybody him and a whole bunch of other stuff. We didnt speak to each other for a while and when we did we had a fight. He broke my arm and gave me a black eye and i broke his leg, three fingers. After that we stopped talking all together. I see him sometimes during school even though he rarely comes anymore, but I sometimes wonder if we could ever be friends again considering if he wanted to. It would have meant a lot to me.

Rachel.......I've been sitting with my thumb over the I button trying to type the words "I'm sorry" but I cant cause I'm not and me and everyone else knows that you aren't either.You helped ruin me.You paved the way for self hate.Thanks.

Sierra

>>21 Since you've found other people to hang out with,I guess it's ok to be separate from your friend.But I guess you still miss him,huh?I know how it feels when you want to forget the good times you've had together but you just can't...Why don't you try to talk to him about things and apologise?If he still remembers all the memories you two share,then I'm sure you could be friends again.Also,you shouldn't have tried to convince him otherwise before the tantrum.You should have let him follow his own path...After all,he had already made his choices and there was nothing you could do about that.

May-sama,you seem like a person who's been through a lot in her life.Also,your situation is VERY similar to mine...So I'll have to ask:What would you do if your three best friends(and the only TRUE friends you had),acted as if you didn't exist and treated you like sh*t?Please,I really need an answer!I don't know what to do anymore...My life sucks and I'm seriously thinking to commit suicide.But ,before I do that,there's something I NEED to know:
Did I make a mistake and I have to go through this as a punishment?Why is this happening to me?Some years ago,I was just a normal girl living her happy life!!!Why did things suddenly change?WHY???

There's this guy that my girlfriend is/was friends with. He was by all accounts an upstanding guy, but then I found out he had some shady secrets in his past, ones that included my girlfriend. Well, it got to the point where this stupid, blind jealousy would take over every time I heard his ringtone on her phone, that I finally just asked her if she'd cut him out of the picture. I don't know if what I did was right or not, or if it makes me a shitty boyfriend (It probably does) but I did what I felt I needed to. I'm still waiting for her to text me back with her response to my question, but I don't think it's going to end well. If I were a little more trusting of other people, and maybe if I'd have never found out the secrets, or at least not in such a fashion as I did, maybe he and I, and thus she and him, could have all been friends. It's 7:30 am, and there's my tearful rant on how I'm a terrible boyfriend.

>>24 Yes, I am a person who has been through various difficulties in her life,but in the end,they only made me stronger...Also,I know that you must be in a lot of pain if you are even thinking of commiting suicide.I am not blaming you for wanting to put an end to your problems by commiting suicide.I just think that it's not the right thing to do...Trust me,things will get better.Not eventually,but they WILL someday.Everything changes.EVERYTHING...Whether we like it or not.Also,don't you think that you're acting sort of like a coward now?(sorry 'bout that but I just felt like mentioning it...)I mean,you're actually running away from your problems instead of trying to face them and I think you shouldn't do that.What if your best friends don't care about you???You'll find new ones someday.I have the same problem,but I've never thought of commiting suicide!It would be horrible if I did that to myself!!Our main difference is that I am FACING the problems I have with my friends.I'm trying to find a solution every day(while you are not)and I have also made new friends.Before you actually try to commit suicide,just remember my answer...And PLEASE don't do that to yourself!Just try to talk to someone about your problems!!!If you like,you can talk to me,too.I swear I'll support you!!!

>>26 Thank you sooo much!That helped a lot!!!:')
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