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The right time (14)

1 Name: Tomo : 2012-11-15 20:03 ID:AlBGS/C5 [Del]

Whenever i ask out someone i like, it's always either too early/ too late and i get friend zoned. So, does anyone know when the right time is?

2 Name: sleepology !CHs4eVJ3O2 : 2012-11-15 20:10 ID:KVpBQDC9 [Del]

DDepends entirely on your actions and what they think of you. There is no "oh 5 months after you meet them" bullhonkey, everyone is different with everyone

3 Name: Tomo : 2012-11-15 20:37 ID:AlBGS/C5 [Del]

I hear what you're saying, but there's got to be some indication! People either see me as that weirdo they just met, or as a sibling:( Are there at least any signs that show someone's into you?

4 Name: reilyx 52 !.18ItdoukM : 2012-11-15 21:09 ID:fwKhFx3r [Del]

5 Name: Khaos : 2012-11-16 07:05 ID:UZIssIW1 [Del]

get to know the person you like for at least three or two days then ask them out

6 Name: synicatemember!lnkYxlAbaw : 2012-11-16 10:25 ID:dXu8TOT8 [Del]

I agree with Khaos. Try to spend time and get to know the person before you ask the person out.

7 Name: BH2 !0jVt1ao7Gw : 2012-11-16 10:51 ID:BoFlsnw4 [Del]

>>4 How did you do that and sorry Tomo I have no experience T^T

8 Name: Sid : 2012-11-16 11:11 ID:bDwMpw1z [Del]

I am not very experienced at this, but from what I was told, and did, it sort of comes naturally if you both like eachother. Well at least more natural than if the other didn't. The best relationships tend to be the easiest to start, but it is work to maintain it. But like Khaos said, get to konw them first. This could give indications of them liking you the same way, or not.

9 Name: Kyomi : 2012-11-17 10:00 ID:TGJIhQIM [Del]

Start by building up friendship talk to each others and get to kno each others when you're close enough as confess to him

10 Name: Ritsu : 2012-11-17 15:14 ID:04hIlics [Del]

Depends who the person your're asking out is.

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12 Name: Magnolia : 2012-11-17 21:44 ID:fl2VMRqH [Del]

Lol sorry I replied to the wrong thread

13 Name: Tatsuo !hylilKS3pw : 2012-11-17 22:32 ID:BOecnCQz [Del]

When faced with a person you like try to see slight differences when they talk to you.
See if they show signs of affection:
-maybe a slight increase of interest in you when talking
-Sometimes increase in reply speed(texting only)
-Increase in tactile engagement
-Person (wants to) spends more time with you(Don't quote me on this one)
-When approaching there is a shift in their stance/swagger (no not SWAG, I am talking about swagger, the real word).

One must be really conscious of their surroundings, always look at their body language!
That's pretty much all I can think of right now, probably forgetting some, but it all ends with you! If you see these signs then it is most likely secured (multiple of these cases must be seen, not just one!).

For those who are about to hate on me:
My apologies this is just to help a fellow Dollar try to make their way into the romantic world.

14 Name: Misuto!M4ZBq07Cs. : 2012-11-18 04:51 ID:JnilGh9O [Del]

>>1 Fun fact: The friend zone is an illusion created by the people who give up halfway into committing to a relationship. It is an excuse that embodies the level of a relationship that is either much too unfamiliar to proceed to romantics, or so familiar that one party becomes wary of intentions.

Technically speaking, timing shouldn't make a difference. It isn't a matter of trapping your partner during a specific time window when they're guaranteed to say yes, and if you thought it was, would you really be satisfied with earning a relationship in that manner? The answer "I'd rather just stay friends" is just a nice way of them to not reciprocate - it doesn't mean you've overdone the friendship thing. In fact, saying that is inherently stupid - why would being a great friend hinder your chances?

If anything, your chances are best when you know each other the best. This is the answer for the long term, though. Some people like to make it a gamble by making their intention known and asking someone out really early, as early as first meeting them - the problem there being that the other party might want option A.

The others in this thread have given you advice on how to read a mutual attraction, but do know that it's usually not such an ideal situation. Look for those things, but don't expect them, and don't be presumptuous if you think you see them.

If there was a correct answer to your question, that would mean all people are the same. Don't fall for that misconception.