i like this girl alot she is always on my mind and i want to be with her alot weve been best friends for 2 years now but i just dont know how to tell her i need help

Wut. Tell her what? Sentences please! WHAT are you talking about.

Bring it up in a conversation; talk about being more than friends. But what I think is that you might be better off as friends. Don't take my word on it, but it's a thought.

>>1 In the sense of taking some form of romantic action with a friend, be aware of a few things first.
-Is this someone you really care about romantically, or is your mind forcing you to think about her? Concern and infatuation are two different things.
-Not to be insulting, but the way you write makes me think you need to check your hormones. Don't go and ruin a friendship simply because you're in the angstyloveteen stage of your life.
-Does she believe the same things you do? I used to disregard this as a non-issue when I was younger, but you seriously need to consider it.
-Has she given you any inclination that she ever thinks about you the same way you're thinking about her? The demon in this one is infamously named "Friendzone". If it doesn't seem like she does, don't tell her outright. Stir up a little chaos and lead her to consider it indirectly. I guarantee you that it'll be better for her to think she likes you on her own than it will for her to think she likes you with your encouragement.

If all these things are clear, only then can you have the greenlight.

A Dating Problems thread already exists. Y U NO USE THE DAMN VIEW ALL TREADS+CNTL-F?!?!

>>5 And why did YOU bump this back to the top? Counterproductive.

Guize.

We have a "Sage" option now for a reason.

Use it.

>>7 The thread is bumped already, I am just wondering what that Sage option means??

What does it do?

>.<

>>8 It makes it so the thread isn't bumped up when you post.

the sage option means you can post a reply but it won't bump the thread up. So if you have something to say but don't want to bump up the entire thread, you would check the sage option.

be a gentlemen

ask her out

>>9 Now that makes sense.
I will use it :)

Zackie, you should ask her out. I was nervous around my bestfriend too, but I kissed her when I had my oportunity ^^. You should do the same, before it is too late.

First, you should learn to use punctuation.

Hey zackie I want you to think about how she makes you feel. Then take those feelings and make them into actions without thinking. if she doesnt feel the same theres no reason things should be weird.Just remember tis' better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

>>1
1. Learn to write.
2. Think carefully about how you're going to confront her.
3. Tell her how you feel.
4. Deal with the consequences.

That's really all there is to it.

>>14
"I want you to think about how she makes you feel. Then take those feelings and make them into actions without thinking."

I thought modern society was supposed to shun upon rape?

No. Don't do things without thinkiing. Saying things without thinking is bad enough. but doing? And to have those actions based off of a hormonal teenager's feelings? No.

I think it really depends on how old you are as well.

If you're around 12-14, there's really no wrong way of doing it unless I have misjudged you as a decent human being. At that point in time basically everyone is new to the concept, so it's not like they have anything to judge you off of relatively.

Somewhat later on, you do have to worry about the whole teenage hormone dilemma Barabi mentioned, so as long as you play it safe and be respectful about asking her out it shouldn't be a big deal. And don't forget that being rejected shouldn't mean there is any bad blood between you - fear of rejection is usually because people think this is the case, but if you can get over that you're pretty much solid.

If you're older than like 17 though I don't think you need advice on how to do it from a forum of people on the internet.

>>16 You'd be suprised of how many 17 - 20 year-old guys I know that haven't kissed a girl.

>>15 Actions are important. Asking her out is a action. Plus, yeah, you should think about your actions. But come on. Don't overreact it. Whenever I think too much it turns out bad. If I were not to think, I would be dating my current girlfriend for 3-4 months by now. But I just had the balls to do it a couple weeks ago. Because I think too much.

>>17 Action is important, but you really shouldn't rush headlong into something. You should be grateful she went out with you if you decided to just pop up out of nowhere and say, "Will you go out with me!?" You wouldn't be getting with most girls by using with that kind of bullshit.

If you want to be serious about girl with an ounce of care regarding who she goes out with, you have to think about it in advanced and pay attention to where, when, and how you ask her out. You shouldn't wait forever with the excuse of thinking; however, it doesn't change that you should always think about what you're going to say before you say it when it comes to dating.

If you somehow magically managed to ask her at the perfect place and time and she said yes, then that's not skill, and it doesn't make randomly asking people out okay - it means you're lucky, and it's not advice you should give to everbody else.

And I'm not saying to create some great atmosphere in some romantic place; I'm saying to be realistic. Don't make ourself look stupid by stopping her without any idea of what you're going to say between classes, while she's talking to her friends, et cetera.

He should ask her out, but too many guys do it tactlessly, and it's just disgusting from a modest girl's POV when a guy randomly walks up and asks to go out with you. The only reason she would go out with you when you do that is if she's a slut, if she's desperate, or if she already really liked you beforehand, which doesn't quite seem to be the OP's case.

Hence, take care in how you ask a girl out, and don't rely on how you feel at the time.

I know exactly how you feel. I was in almost the exact same situation not too long ago. I had liked this guy for almost 2 years and we were really good friends. But I had no idea if he liked me as more than a friend and I definetley didn't have the courage to ask him. Then one day out of nowhere he asked me on a date. I was the happiest person alive! Now I feel like we are in a steady relationship and I've never been happier!

Moral of the story? Just go and ask her! The chances are that she really likes you too! And I know it's scary but once it's done you will feel amazing, I promise!

Well first of all, you need to know whether this chick is interested or not. Take in any hints you can find. If she is cold then that's an obvious hint that she is not interested and doesn't want anything. If she is kind it might be two things (1) she's generally a kind person, or (2) she is interested in you. Use your judgment and intuition. Take in any non-verbal action as a sign of what she thinks. Also, consider what she likes in a person and see if you fit the criteria.