so i have an extremely disfunctional family and all they do is argue and yell and whenever i try to calm it down they just turn to yell at me and i just go cry in my room wondering why they yell at me for trying to return peace can anyone tell me how to stop them

Then don't get in the middle of it. Stay away from the shitststorm that is your family's fights, or be caught in the crossfire and have what already happens keep happening. Theres not a thing you can do to stop them, imo

Sleepology, I don't think it is that easy...

>>1 Don't step into a fight. If they are doing it, don't stop it. But when everybody is calm ask them for a family meeting. And tell them all you feel about this situation. It might not help at all, but atleast they will see your side.

That is what I would do. :)

Yeah.. I highly doubt the 3rd sentence onward will work.

It does work sometimes. I come from a similar situation.

I definitely agree, though, that you shouldn't try and play peacemaker. It's a bad place to be, seeing as it rarely works in any situation like this, and you just end up getting hurt. Or worse, feeling like you're the reason they're like this.

i just want everyone to get along the only one i can depend on is one of my older brothers who stays out the way of it

Then follow his example.

I never have had a family connection, but whenever my parents went at it I usually stayed away, until I was older. Even then I didn't do much, but if my dad started to hit my mom more I would have stepped in, luckily it didn't come to that. I don't really know what to do in these situations, since I usually got beat for interfering. It will most likely ruin your connection with your family if you always stay away, since I always avoided my dad. I am not saying always to jump into an argument, but don't always let that scare you off if you want a family connection.

even if i don't back down they wouldn't listen to me in the first place im the youngest girl in my family and don't really have a say in anything i guess all i can do is stay away

Try to express your feelings to each one separately. They might not listen if you get them both together to talk, but if you approach them one at a time, they might let their defenses down a little more.

that sounds like a great idea :) i can't wait to see how it turns out