Problem: Girl with no friends is breaking up my original friendships
Details: So at school I always sit with my 2 close friends at lunch. At some point last year a girl with no friends started sitting with us, which is okay but she's a bit annoying. This year she continued to sit with us for awhile. My 2 friends can't stand her and refuse to sit with her. They want to tell her to stop sitting with us, because they don't like her.

I could never do such a thing so I continue to sit alone with her, while my friends sit with others. So basically, she's dragging me down to the person I used to be (I used to sit alone reading a book). She doesn't talk at all, and when she does people can't hear her. She's really nice but nobody likes her. WHAT SHOULD I DO!?!?!?!
(P.S My 2 original friends aren't total jerks, if u were in the situation, u would probably agree. Also the girl is kinda new to the school, she had a lot of friends at her old school. Anyway they want to sit with me but 1 of them gets really angry. {The lonley girl knows they don't like her})

Sleep with the lonely girl.
Your friends won't be your friends as the years go by and nothing you have with this girl will last...so...get it.

Tell her to not sit with you.

Honestly, it's as hard as it sounds. She's the one who chose to sit with you all first, after all; it's not like you invited her and are now kicking her out. If you're not comfortable telling her that, then ask your friends to say it to her for you. As long as it's brought up, it's alright.

She may be dramatic about it. She may whine and cry and pretend that you're ruining her life or something. How to handle that? Don't. Ignore her. Tell her that you've all made up your mind and don't want her back no matter how much she dislikes them for it.

yeah dude.. tell her. If it's too much for you then maybe you can tell her that you can still hang around some time. Just explain things to her... but I dunno dude, just do what feels right anyway.

>>2 "sleep with the lonely girl".. . excuse me but.. BWAHAHHAHAH!!!!!!

>>4 ...why offer to hang out with someone you don't like?

>>5 well Dagger said "my 2 friends can't stand her" and "they want her to bla bla".. fuck i'm blitzed.. so yeah, it's something her friends want to so I dunno

How about finding out what this girl likes and when you do look for a club or a group pf people that fits her hobbies after that you and the girl join the club after a while she will talk to someone and thats when you decide to leave the club or not your choice.
OR
it couldd be that this girl likes you and wants to be close to you then that means if you don't like her then tell you know to leave, but first idea seems more nicer.

i would personally keep letting her sit there with you and your friends(that is if they will go for it). i think about if i was in her place and how would i feel if someone tried to push me away. like you said, she came from a different school and is now very lonely. you could be the one person she could probably call friend

>>8 I agree with you I would do the same, but since he doesn't want her there Im giving him an option.

>>8 And how is she supposed to make friends by hanging out with people who don't like her? They're not her friends at all; it's more lonely to be with people who hate you than to be alone.

Kicking her out of their group will not only give her a good reality check - it will also give her a chance to find people who actually like her to hang out with. She's not going to take that first step herself unless she has a reason to.

I read through... but it doesn't seem that a reason why your friends don't like her was stated. Do you know?

Hey I don't know why you don't like her.

But either way my advice would be: get to know her, maybe she is better than you think! If that doesn't happen, tell her the truth. Tell her why you don't want to walk with her, or rather, why you think she is annoying.

But to give a full answer, please answer the >>11!

Thanks for all your help!!! My 2 friends were sitting with another group. I just switched it around :) Now I sit with my friends and the Friendless girl is making new friends.

NOTE: I didn't really make this clear, but I'm a girl.

>>11 My friends don't like her because she just sits there and doesn't talk, and follows you EVERY WHERE kinda like a stalker... And if she does talk, u can never hear her and it's really awkward...

13>> Well, that's good. P.S. And like what Chrome said, sleep with her. ;)

dude grow a pair and walk away

>>13 The poor girl's just shy. She's just trying to find some friends, but it's awkward because she doesn't know anyone and I'd say she doesn't just want to say something wrong so she doesn't say much.

-Satanism Luciferian...

>>17 ...whadda fuuh...

>>17 You realise, do you not, that those are two COMPLETELY different belief systems? You are just some stupid kid, aren't you?

I agree that she is probably lonely and that if you don't want to sit with her anymore, you don't have to, but instead of just telling her to leave, help her find some friends. Talk to her about what she likes and introduce her to some other people who share her interests, maybe help her join a club. Besides, you two might become friends as well.

Another thought, not all of my friends like all of my other friends, and they don't have to. Perhaps you could spend lunch with this lonely girl and become her friend (or as previously mentioned, help her make friends) and spend your time after school with your other friends?

Just thoughts, but in the words of Enma Ai "the rest is up to you"

Another thought just struck me, perhaps you should introduce her to the dollars? And on another note, to anime as well? =D

>>21 I don't like you at all.

why dont you like her?
is she a bad person?
what if you tried to get to know her, maybe then she wont be as annoying.
arent your friends too cruel to do something like that?
no offense, but i hate your friends.

why dont you like her?
is she a bad person?
what if you tried to get to know her, maybe then she wont be as annoying.
arent your friends too cruel to do something like that?
no offense, but i hate your friends.

>>22 what's up? (granted that I never noticed the problem was already solved, completely missed that post so my bad)

>>1 I know what you mean. When I was in Year 5 & 6, this girl Georgia kept dragging me away from my friends, or dragging them away from me. It sucks balls.
If you don't like this girl, say so. Never hesitate to voice your opinions. But you gotta go about it in a certain way: keep it kind and as non-offensive as possible. Explain your reasons and she should understand.
In the worst incident with Georgia she kept dragging my friend away. Sayla REALLY didn't like her, but she was waaaay too nice to tell her to stop.
Georgia had a bad personality, period. She was clingy, stingy, controlling, rude, the list goes on. Obviously no-one wanted to be around her.
So we talked it out. I told her that we are both Sayla's friends and that we should word together for a compromise.
Of course, she kicked and screamed and fought like hell, but we work it out in the end.
We divided up the week into two parts: Monday, Wednesday and Friday Sayla would spend with me and my group of friends, the other two days she would spend with Georgia.
Try doing something like that, if you don't want to hurt her feelings. It should work... Should.

Just to let the people know the problem has been fixed. In response >>13.

I you can tell youre "new" friend how you feel, maybe help her out to make new.friends. Help her behave

....This sounds remarkably similar to something at my school...
Well, I say you tell the friend how you really feel, then try to help her make different friends.
...totally not copying 28

This question has been answered guys... It's been over for a while.... If you'd read anything at all, you'd know this.

Exact same problem with me... although that was when I was still in high school... my lonely friend dragged me down to be kinda lonely with her. After a few years, we're still friends, but after graduating, they go to another school where my other friends went to. They ended up having a fight and un-friending each other on facebook. They tried to get me to un-friend my other friends (did not do it and will not ever). Seems to think that the world is against them for some reason.
(Just wanted to share)

>>31 This person is a total fucking moron, people.

Has happened to me before. Tis is what I did. You should try it.
Strike fear in their hearts.
Make sure they know what their doing upsets you and will not be ignored.
Tell them they are going about making friends wrong.

The biatch I did this too, began to mind her own business and now she has a happy life living in china.
True Story.