I was just wondering, does anyone really have a friend that they have no problems with? I feel like I have no TRUE best friend at my school, that one person I can tell anything to. I used to have one but she moved. Now I feel like if a person seems nice they will really just dig up your secrets then spread them around the school like crazy. If they're popular then they're usually really snobby/mean. There are no otaku at my school and btw, my parents are very strict that I hang out with popular people but lately I just don't see the point. Does anyone else feel like they only have little friends but not that TRUE best friend?

I know how you feel. I have friends who I thought were 'true' but it turned out that anything I told them they would just use to mock and humiliate me. I also feel I have no friends that I can truely rely on in a time of need. (And sorry if I have written words incorrectly).

Your parents are forcing you to hang out with popular kids? Your parents must be assholes.

Who the hell cares who you hand out with. Hell in High school I literally had no friends for the majority if my stay. I was almost always alone, and I preferred it that way. I only have one true friend, and I see him as a brother more than a friend. But other than that I don't really know anyone else. I just say stick with it and do whatever you want. Hang out with people that make you have fun, not the opposite.

Don't worry about it. Contrary to what many people say, high school friends really aren't that important. They're pretty much just there so that you aren't constantly bored. Besides, you're probably like 16, I'm sure sure you'll meet someone you like over the course of your life that you'll consider to be a "true" friend. You're also very likely to see that one friend who moved away again. Besides, you sound like you have a pretty good idea of how to get along well with norms.

Um.. why does your parent force you to be friends with the popular kids? I might agree with you it's so hard to find a TRUE friend.. but so far i am lucky to find atleast ten TRUE friends as for now ^^. In my high school days I experience that too. That people were getting friends with you because they need you and such... HUh! That was really tiresome.. I also join the ride because I know already what are their motifs. But you know what. I still believe that you can find a true friend someday... Just be patient a little bit..

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>>8 Did he say this before or after rehab?

I don't think I'll ever meet someone whom I could actually tell everything to. I do have like 2 very very close friends, but someone you can tell anything to? Is that possible?

>>10 Some on the BBS specifically might agree that it's an impossibility, which is why the anonymity you can retain in places like this becomes so invaluable. That being said, I do believe that such a friend is possible despite my own tendencies to keep everyone at an arm's length. Those friends cannot easily be determined however, for I have witnessed dear friends become completely disestablished from one another simply by a lapse in judgment from one. Some of these can be so deeply glaring that you come to realize gaping differences between you personalities that disable you from recreating the previous connection you once had. Like all situations of trying to deal with people, it seems to be a game of hit-and-miss.

I have three such friends, they are friends that I have complete and utter faith in. I'd trust my life, and the lives of my family with them and I'd go to hell and back for them. I'm lucky to have such great friends and they mean the world to me.

I also think it's possible to have that friend that you tell everything to. They're hard to find but I believe they exist. I also feel that it takes time to develop those kinds of bonds. I've had my friends for most of my life, and I've never been in a situation where I've absolutely needed them. I've been pretty close though, and they usually help me through what ever it is.

>>13 yea I've known one of them since I was in fourth grade and I honest to god owe my life to him, because if he hadn't become my friend when he did, I probably would have committed suicide. The other two I met because of the first one, and I've grown to become very close friends with them as well.

>>14 I've got two or three friends who would help me with anything whether i wanted them to or not. The others are there when I ask. Most of them would do anything for me(with in reason. nothing like murder, robbery, and so on) and I know I would give everything for them. THAT is what I think a True "best friend" is.

Please don't hate me, but high school for me was very traumatic and now it's been very hard for me to make friends in public or anywhere. I've shut my heart away from everyone and I believe that finding that one friend is a little bit impossible for me right now.

But I hope you can find a trustworthy friend soon. C:

thanks guys, It means a lot that you actually took the time to read my thread. and thanks for the pep talk, I'm a sucker for that stuff

My best friend is someone I love with an incredible passion. Even still, despite all we've been through, we're completely opposite. I know I can't tell her everything because she just wouldn't understand. However, I know we both love each other and will support each other even if we disagree. Finding someone like that is hard; during high school, I always felt like even the people I got along with were too distant from the things I was feeling. Like we could be friends, but we would never really know each other. Don't let this get you down! There are always people to talk to, places to find someone--like here! Look at all the people who replied! You never know, maybe someone is just waiting for you to say this. Maybe someone's trying to work up the courage to get to know you better.

A true friend is someone you can fuck shit up with, crack dirty jokes, hit on chicks, do stupid shit, and laugh at each others injuries with.

Someone who is always there for u and someone u can rely on. Some one u can screw up with and laugh about later!^^

A true friend can't be put into words. Nothing in any language would do it justice. All I can tell you is that I've had a couple people I can consider true friends, and there is no one in the world I can compare them to. One lives on the other side of the planet from me now, but he will always be a true brother to me.
If you live your life true to who you are, walking your own path and not just getting carried away in the ebb and flow of popular society, true friends will without a doubt appear, often in places that already existed but were previously hidden.

A true friend is someone who knows everything about you, yet doesn't judge you for any bit of it.
Someone who loves you without reason, or every single reason they can imagine.
Someone who will stick by your side, even in the worst of times, and sticks by you no matter what.

And most of all, a true friend is someone who will play ninja, and every other random shit with you everywhere, and think it's completely normal.

I'm not reading all of these for one reason. This question is purely opinionated. You will get a different answer from each person.

>>19 This is probably the closest to my opinion.

To me, a true friend is someone who I can tell everything to and they can tell me everything. We can be completely open with no fear of the other judging them, telling them how they should have handled it, or wanting to rip someone apart if it's someone we love.

Here's an example. My best friend and I have a fight. I'm sad. Another friend asks me why. I tell them. They will either say, "You think your life is bad, listen to this." "You should have said this to win the argument and made them shut up." or "I can't believe that bitch! I'm going to fucking kill her!"

If it's someone I hate then I enjoy the cussing at them thing. It makes me laugh, but that's not what I want. I simply want someone that I have not secrets from and they have no secrets from me. I can tell them my past and they can tell me theirs. We will listen to each other, and it will change nothing. We can be completely 100% open.

I have yet to find someone like that, and, every day that passes by without that happening, I begin to believe that I'll never find that.

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>>23 -_-

KiD's got a problem with my definition of a friend. Oop, someone's been offended.

>>26 I'm not offended by your definition, but rather the "I have yet to find someone like that," part. Actually, I'm not offended at all. Just surprised that you're complaining about not being able to find someone that cares, but don't bother to look around to see the people that do. Eh, it's your own damn fault you have no friends, so don't expect anyone to care when you complain.

>>27 lol

I'd say something about being friendzone'd but apparently you haven't even made it there yet :3

Bump because I still think this is an interesting thread.

>>28 HA!

I've thought about this question a good deal throughout my life, since I've never really had many friends. I became obsessed with books and everything fantasy related (books, movies, TV shows, video games, and more books) and the characters in those stories became friends to me, so i guess I never felt a strong need to go out and try to be friendly with people outside my family.

I had one very close friend from kindergarten (beginning of school, for those in certain countries who don't know that word) until the end of high school. I considered him my "best friend", but it was in the later part of high school that I realized how much of a farce that was. I barely saw him outside of school (once a month, maybe), though i did sit with him at lunch everyday. I think the realization that we were actually barely friends at all hit me after I played the game "The World Ends with You". In the game, the characters are forced to partner up with people in order to survive a deadly game. I wondered if there was anyone in the world like that, someone I would be willing to partner up with and trust my life with, and I couldn't think of anyone. I get along well with my family, but I just didn't have that kind of truly, truly deep relationship with anyone.

Because of this realization, I decided to seek out people, even just one person, who I think I can entrust everything, all that I am, to. I came to another realization when i went to college and participated in a group where each member shared their life story, everything they wanted to about themselves and their experiences. I thought that these people could become the ones I could entrust my heart to, but I discovered that even though I laid my soul bare to them, and they did the same to me, most of us did not become very close friends. In fact, the people I've become closest too in college (including my newest candidate to become a true friend) are people I barely know anything about. Slowly we learn more about each other, as we share our experiences and bits and pieces of our pasts.

I don't know if a true friend exists, a person to whom you can share everything with; after all, no person truly knows the whole of who they are (just human nature in my opinion). However, I will continue searching for the answer, seeking the one who I can share my heart with, and who can share their heart with me.

>>31 I agree with you, "I became obsessed with books and everything fantasy related and the characters in those stories became friends to me, so i guess I never felt a strong need to go out and try to be friendly with people outside my family."

I wrote stories about many things in my early high school years and I never felt lonely. I was always the quiet and shy type and never had really good friends to talk to so writing stories was like a substitute in their place.