Not seeing my girlfriend for two months, i finally saw her, we had a class together and we walk about the campus and we sat down to talk. she wanted to take a break because we weren't ready for a relationship. i couldn't say anything to stop because it was a shock to me, we been together for a few months. i love her and i wanted to have a long relationship with her. i ask how long will it be and she doesn't know. so i took it and said alright. she said see ya later. once i saw my friends, i lost it. my hands were shaking, ready to punch something. i went against the wall and lowered myself to the floor and broken down. i had my friends there for me, explaining what happened. i did everything in my power to hang out with her during the summer, but i got nothing. even this past weekend i ask if she could hang out and she said no. i didn't ask why because i didn't know what to do at the time. i want us to get back together

Look, it's understandable that you want to get back with her and go out with her at least a little longer. But you also need to keep in mind that maybe she might be feeling a bit conflicted about her feelings towards you if not then there's the possibility that she's going through some tough times. Maybe she needs a break in order to solve whatever issues she may have. Give her some time to think about it. If she ends up wanting to be with you, then that's good. If she does want to break up for good then take some time to get used to it and find someone else.

it hurts alot though

No offense, but it seems like she just plain doesn't like you. You were a summer fling, and that's about it. I wouldn't say you love her after a couple months of dating. She says "break", but really it's just so that if you become convenient again, then she can get back together with you.

This is my typical pessimistic POV, and I don't really think you should hang onto her. But hey, are you really gonna listen to some identity on the internet? i think not. so good luck, and who knows. maybe i'm completely wrong.

4's unfortunately probably right about this. Its doesn't feel good now, but something I learned from experience applies;

You could waste your one chance at true happiness, thinking you've already found it.

Its one girl, one that obviously doesn't feel the same about you as you do for her, but that just means she wasn't the one for you.

move on. the faster you do the less it hurts.

>>You could waste your one chance at true happiness, thinking you've already found it.

well said

As a girl who has done that before, I suggest you get out now.

It generally means that the girl is iffy about you and wants a chance to think about if you're worth her time. If she decides that you're not worth her time? I think you can guess what that means.

I suggest you break up with her before she breaks up with you. Just, you know. Keep your pride in one piece. Don't take her back if she begs - she'll just be trying to reopen that door so she has more time to think.

She's thinks that dating you is perhaps something that she can do so what I would suggest is to drop it now before you both get into something that you will regret!

If she wants to take a break, maybe you should too. This gives you an opportunity to meet other people before you start a long relationship. You may not want to do that, but it is a smart decision to not settle down so quick.

If she wants to take a break, maybe you should too. This gives you an opportunity to meet other people before you start a long relationship. You may not want to do that, but it is a smart decision to not settle down so quick.

thanks for the help, i decided that im going to talk to her in about a month and half, but it's going to be a long path and it's going to hurt alot

>>11 Neku i kno wat your going threw man i went through it not so long ago there are gonna be hardships but you have to push through it man it tough but you need to just talk to her and ask whats going on if she just wants to be friends for a while let that happen but stay close and if she want to be together again great if she doesnt then it wasnt meant to be dont worry there are others change is hard but worth it for happiness hang tough stay strong

>>12 thanks man i know it's going to be tough but i know i can get through this

>>6 Thank you. ^_^

u know man she might hav get enough of ur relationship and stop seeing u for few months so u should do what axel tell u.

it seems to be getting better. little by little though. im going to wait it out and see what happens between us. as much it might hurt, i gotta keep going on and focus on college and if she wants to talk about it then we'll talk. thanks for the advice and help you guys gave me it really helps. i'll see you guys around

good luck Neku i hope you find some one to make you happy evern if it isn't the girl you thought you loved in the begining

>>17 thanks

Well she and i are talking, but we haven't talk about it. we see each other in class and we talk. i feel i should wait a bit longer to ask her what's going to happen between us. i hope for the best right now. is there anything else i should do?

>>19 be patient. However, you should also realize that she may not be interested in having a relationship with you. Now I'm not saying she is, because I don't know her at all and it's her decision not mine, but you have to be prepared for that, because it'll hurt less if that should be the case.

>>20 i understand that. i am slightly prepared for it.

>>21 Thats good. Best of luck on it and just remember to be patient.

Deal with it like how im being taught to drive in drivers ed. "Predict for the worst." just because you predict it doesn't mean it will always have to excuted though, so keep a little hope, but be ready for the worst.

i'll keep that in mind

If you want my opinion, I'd say go on with your life. There's no use in waiting for her to make up her mind. Still keep a friendship with her because she may choose to come back to you. If she comes back, think about if you really want her back. Hope for the best yet expect the worst. Who knows? You may find someone else while she's thinking.

if she really cared about you she wouldn't have done it in the first place.