When it comes to me and my father, its a rough relationship. We love each other to death, but for some reason, he doesn't trust me when it comes down to alot of things. He also doesn't know alot about me. My parents got divorced when I was 8 and since then i've only seen my dad on weekends. I'm 16 now. He doesn't know what foods I like to eat, or what places I like to go to(which isn't alot anyway) and we have very little in common, which makes it extremely hard to hang out somewhere or talk.

When I do something differently, he immediately interrogates me as if I just committed the worst possible crime. For the first time in a while the other week, I went outside because I was worried about my stepsister who's only a few months older than me, because it was 1:30am and she wasn't home. When she finally came home, with some friends, I hung outside with them for a few hours before we got tired and went to bed. Thats something i've never done before. The following morning while he was at work, my Dad texted me and yelled at me. He just didn't trust me and practically interrogated me, thinking we did something stupid like smoke.

He just doesn't understand me at all. Todays my last day with him until Saturday, but there's something I want to tell him before I leave. I recently got a rather large inheritance, a little more than enough to buy my first car. He immediately told me that I could only spend a small fraction of it on anything that isn't car. However, I don't want a car, or rather, I don't want to buy a car with this money. I want to earn the money that buys me a car, not just have it handed to me. But, if I tell him that, he'll think i'm lying and that I just want to spend it on video games. And while a good portion of that will go towards video games seeing as thats my main thing in life, there are other things I want too. The reason I can't just spend the money is because he has it in a bank account that only he can access, so I have to go through him first.

Can anyone help me figure out how to go about telling hm this without him thinking i'm straight up lying to him?

That awkward moment when I wonder if I'm giving someone I know advice.

To your advice. Your 16, and it's legally your money. Your dad cannot deny you right to your money, period. Unless there's something in the will that says that you have to wait until a certain age before you get it. Next piece of information, which you'll probably hear anyways. It's okay to spend some money on things you enjoy such as video games, but that's not a wise way to spend money. I highly advise saving it for college unless your family is extremely well off. College is a fucking bitch to pay for, and I know several people who are struggling with it. Trust me on this one, saving it for college is the best route.

As for your original question? I don't see why I should answer it if it contradicts my previous statement and I see nothing good coming from me giving you advice to help you.

Its not that i'm not allowed to spend it, its that he dictates what I can spend it on. In fact, I wasn't supposed to get any money. Originally only my Dad and Stepmother got money, but they decided to split the money equally among of the kids(of which there are 5). So in essence, it's my money now. But because i'm not old enough to have a bank account, he made one and put my money in it. He then told me that I had to spend most of it on a car, but what was left was mine to do with as I pleased, however, I had to go through him first to get the money, but he also has to approve the purchase.

My family is in no way well off. My mother is borderline poor due to being laid off and starting from square 1 again. My dad makes as much as she once did, which gives him an average income. As far as college goes, I havn't even decided on a career yet, let alone a secondary education. If I could get a scholarship, that'd be great. Chances of that happening are slim to none. Not to mention I live out in the countryside, a very inconvenient place when looking for work, let alone a first job. I thought about voice acting as a career and I could've started now, but my voice started changing again, so it cracks now and again, which really screwed that opportunity up.

But again, I don't want to spend the money on a car. I want to earn the money that pays for my first car. I don't know how to tell him that, without him thinking that i'm lying.