Okay, I have heaps of guyfriends and one of them, which I'm really close to, confessed to me. But I'm not sure whether I like him. I mean he's like one of my best friends and he's really sweet! And I know it's rude but because he's a best friend I can say it. He's very ugly. He's also a month younger than me. And there's a guy I like. He goes to my maths tuition center. He's really tall and good looking, he's also older than me by a few months. He's also really smart. I don't know who I like... Can I ask for some advice?

You're not obliged to go out with him, it's your life. By asking you out, he's also accepted the outcome of rejection, and therefore, he should be prepared for that. I had a similar experience as well, but I panicked when he asked me. I rejected him, without any closure and distanced myself, and it screwed up our relationship.
I can't help you with who you like, but if you aren't interested in a relationship with your best friend, don't bother trying it. It'll just fall apart.

>>1 Do you care if he's ugly? Worried about what others say if you would go out with him? A few months younger/older doesn't matter.
Go out with the one you like/love of course, don't enter a relationship just cause you feel obliged to. That's nonsense. If you ask someone out then you gotta be preperd to the chance of being rejected. I totally agree with >>2 on this point.

If you like someone mainly cause of their looks, don't forget to judge their personality as well. That smart handsome guy might be used to people thinking that. Get to know him better before asking him out.
Sorry if it seems I'm sitting on a high horse or something.
That's not my intention.
I hope it was of some help.

>>2 He didn't ask me out he just confessed. I'm not going to date anyone. I'm just saying I don't know who I should like.

>>3 Well, my bestfriend, he's pretty much a pervert but he's really sweet and he shows a lot of affection.

I'm not going to ask the smart handsome guy out, I just don't know who I should like. And the smart handsome guy is also very kind and basically treats me like a little brother/Sister (I'm a girl but... guys treat me like their little brothers because I'm a tom boy.)

>>4 You're saying you don't know who you should like, but is it really necessary to like someone? Do you need to decide? Why not just leave it as it is, if you're not planning on dating anyone. You can't really just choose who you like, it's not that simple. If you like someone, there's not really much you can change about it. You like them. That's it. You either decide to take action based on your feelings, or just let it go, and wait until it passes. You don't have very much choice in the matter.

In a situation like this, I suggest the only person who can help you is your own self.

Ask yourself if you're happy when you pick either A or B. Will you be happy with your future lover A (or B), why and why not? If you don't know for sure, how about making up a situation where you have to make your mind and choose? For example, you think of a time when that person A (or B) had a girlfriend. Then, would you angry, or upset, or feel happy for him? If you can answer this question, I think you know your answer now. Think wisely, choose right, be honest with yourself and you'll never regret.

Of course all I said was in my own opinion, so you're free to do whatever you like with it.

My friend, I wish you the best

Thank you for all your help.

Boy A can be the handsome guy and B my best friend.

Boy A: I only see him once a week during tuition and he's really smart. He helps me when I'm stuck on a question. And he'll let me listen to his ipod. He'll talk to me about Bleach and Naruto because those are his favourite animes. (I WUV BLEACH TOO!~)
He walks me to my car afterwards. He looks really handsome and he treats me like a little brother. I've known him from the start of the year, ti'll now.


Boy B: I met him in the first year of high school (This year) I though he was just an ugly annoying guy that was friends with my guy friend. I got to know him and he treated me like his little brother too. He would always ruffle my hair whenever he saw me and I'll do the same just to get back at him. We've gotten really close and he's now one of my best friends. He always helps me and we often talk to each other on skype during non-school hours. We can just talk for hours and hours. We game together. (It's kinda unfair because I only see Boy A every Sunday.) Boy B thinks I like Boy A. He always talks bad about Boy A whenever I bring him up and always tells me to stop talking about how perfect anime guys are. He gets jealous easily. He's very forward. He loves hugging me and touching me. As weird as that sounds.

I guess if any of them got a girlfriend I would be kinda upset. I mean I can blame them, as an Asian (BTW both these guys are asian, which is weird because I usually like white guys) girl, I'm not quite as pretty or as stick thin, I'm 'normal' but way weirder.

Boy B swears a lot more than Boy A though.

Umm.. I still can't pick. Is that weird?

>>7
I'm not sure what to say now. Nearly speechless. But no, I mean, it's not abnormal to act like this. There're times when people get confused and they also make their friends & advisors get confused, too. That's just the way things usually go...

Asian girls're so troublesome. Not any harsh meaning,really, but it's true. And if you want to know, I'm Asian, too. However, it doesn't mean I could be any more useful to your matter. Still, I'll try my best in helping!

Anyway, I don't think you could pick either of those two boys yet. Just not yet, not now. And you still have to respond to boy B's confession, right? So, why don't you text him, or maybe meet him in person to tell about your true feelings. I mean, before you got a confession, you liked boy A and never thought of having any feelings towards B, is that correct? And then, when you knew your best friend's secret, everything changed as you started to care more about B.

In other words, the problem comes from boy B's confession. You got confused because of your best friend's confession. That's the problem you need to solve!

It's the best you should tell B the whole truth that you're not sure whether you liked him or not, that you'd never thought of him in such way before, ect. Just give him the real truth. And, B will surely understand. After all, he's your best friend, isn't he?


This is the best solution I can come up with. Forgive me if it's too lame...

Give both of them a chance go on one single date with each boy and see which one you like better. Im 15, but I still think you don't have to worry about that for the next couple of years, but if you want to see which one you like better, do what I just told you to.

>>8 I have a fear that if I start liking Boy B he might not like me back but if I don't show any affection for him he'll stop liking me. It's not like I'm trying to lead him on or anything but, what if I do like him? And he stops liking me? Then what do I do?!

>>9 I don't want to go on a date. I'm 14 and I think I'm way too young for my first date. I want my first date to be special, not a test to see who makes my heart beat faster.