Dear Dollars.

I have two friends that both like me, they are both close friends and im not too sure who to choose, either way someone is going to get hurt. I have thought about it alot and i still dont know. I'd love some help from everyone.

Thanks, Celty.

By the way, I am a girl, just to clarrify so I can get better help.

Thanks again, Celty.

... why focusing on one?

Well you see both of the guys like me, and they are friends with eachother too...

Which one do you like better, thats what it all comes down to...you don't have to date a guy just because he likes you...

I suggest growing up before you date anyone. If you can't make a simple decision like this, you don't seem mature enough to really have a half-decent relationship anyways.

>>5 That is true, in the end it's what you feel not just them. You are just as important as they are and if you just do it because they like you and you don't like them, you could potentially hurt both.

>>6 She won't grow up or be mature until she actually experiences a relationship though.We grow up according to our experiences and how we learn from them and if she never dates anyone, it would be the same situation when she's older where she won't be mature in that sense. Although honestly, you shouldn't date a lot either because after many failed relationships, people tend to change the way they think and close themselves off to other people.

>>8 Agree. Also don't put your heart completely into a relationship until 1) its been a long time. 2) you know for a fact you are falling in love with the person and they are also falling in love. 3) You know you want to spend the rest of your life with that person.

~I'm probably considered a hopeless romantic but, I don't care.

>>9 Hey I'm just the same as you and we're all allowed to dream so we really shouldn't care. But I get what you're saying about not putting your whole heart in at the beginning, I learned that the hard way though :/

>>10 Yeah, we probably all have put our heart into a relationship too soon at one point. However once you get someone else's heart in return it's the best feeling.

As I said I like both of them very much, I just don't want to lose a friend but gain a boyfriend. I'm just afraid of hurting them because I have been friends with both of them for more than 2 years..

Thanks, Celty.

>>12 If you are that afraid, pick neither. just don't risk it. That's all there is to it. No matter what in this type of situation someone is gonna get hurt, maybe even yourself. Relationships are almost always painful to someone...just be careful. on that note i shall leave you.

>>8 I'm not saying she can't learn from experiences, but that she's not ready to date anyone if she can't make a choice like this. She either doesn't care enough about either guy to really have a relationship that can even function properly,or she cares too much, and the same result.

You have to be somewhat mature to start a relationship, and she isn't yet. Asking the internet who to date isn't close.

>>12 You obviously value them both as friends, and highly value them at that. In my personal opinion, friendship is the better(and more important) choice rather than a relationship and a boyfriend because in the end even a girlfriend/boyfriend is a friend so rather than lose one and keep the other, why not keep both. And maybe later the choice will be clearer but for now, I would leave it alone. With that said, I think I'll leave you to make the decision, it's yours after all, not mine.

>>14 Well yeah but relationships, love, like, those are all terms that are defined differently by everyone. True, the internet isn't the best place for this kind of advice but it would be the same as going to a bunch of people in the outside world because you're getting different perspectives in the end to add to your own.

just make a damn choice...... trust me youll regret it later if you dont... trust me i know.

>>15 thanks yuma, i think im going to leave it for a while. I'd rather wait and see how things play out. Im thankful for everyones input and im so happy people are here to help.

Thank-You EVERYONE, Celty.S

>>15 She's asking people who don't know anything. No informative decision could be made by us. This is a decision only she can make, and she's trying to have someone else make it fir her. That waynshe avoids responsibility. Irresponsible, and immature.

>>18 there is no need to be rude. I was asking advice.

And I gave you some. Real world, legitimate, serious advice. I'm not here to be your friend, throw a pity party, or stroke someone's ego. I'll give you my advice based on experience. I'm not holding anything back to spare you feelings, so you can take my advice 100% at face value. It's ultimately up to you whether or not you take my advice.

It seems as like it is going alright with just being friends for both of them. Also it might harm their friendship temporaily if you choose one over the other, but they will get over it. the problem is if they hang out a lot and you do decide to date one of them and things go sour it will be awkard hanging out with the other person, since his friend is likely to be there. I am a guy and I think I am more unique since I value personality in the other, more than just sex. But most guys will just be after sex, which is why I will give you a warning before diving straight into a relationship with anyone. I am not saying to block out your heart, just be cautious here and there. This is a troubling topic, since there as as many viewpoints as there are people. So ultimately it will be up to you in the end.

>>22 Thank you so much Sid, that actually helped me alot. I think im going to wait and see who i like more also who will treat me better. Im really happy people are here helping.