Okay, so, I've been having problems with keeping my temper under control. For instance, today I got busted in summer school because some random kid wouldn't leave me alone, so I picked up my desk and chucked it at him. I have very big issues with my temper and I need help because I don't want to hurt anyone else. I dislike violence and yet I resort to it when I'm pissed off. In short, can someone help me come up with some calming things to do to help with this? I've tried several things, but I'm still quick to get agitated. Any other suggestions?

Just saying, you remind me so much of Shizuo right now...

There are anger management centres and clinics where people can help you with your problem. Until you find time to visit one, though, when you are right about to lose your temper, try your best to calm yourself down. Thinking of something peaceful usually works for me. Apparently, counting to 10 or taking deep breaths works as well, though I've never tried that.

I see eye to eye with you on this one. I have the worst anger issues from throwing stuff to punching holes in the walls, but what I do to at least bring my anger down a bit is to just sit down and block the whole world out for a bit and if that doesn't work try to think about who's watching (I have to do this a lot)for example I have a friend who is very sensitive.She is terrified of me when I'm angry so when I start to go all rage mode I think about how my actions will affect her.

>>2 Yeah, I guess when it comes to how wild my anger can be, I'm a real life Shizuo. Both yours and kohae's ideas sound good. Just in case I'll keep this open for any more suggestions. Thank you guys very much.

ive been in this type of situation too you really need to find something that makes you really happy or give youself a goal! most times when you do this you can have something to tell you that i still have this too look for in life so even if something goes wrong theres something to cheer you up and for if you are angry you need to never hold inside your anger that only makes it worst! you can just punch a pillow or even just talk to someone you trust! :)

Can you trace your anger back to a certain point? I mean, can you specify in which point in time you started having these anger outbreaks? Or maybe it has always been a problem? If you can, it should be easier for a psychologist to help you. You should really consult a specialist if it interferes with your daily life.

Nonetheless, I think the goal idea may help (although it won't replace the help of a specialist!). Keep yourself busy being happier, as >>5 said!

>>5 Thank you, that may help too. :) >>6 Little things can set me off. Like, if something doesn't go my way or someone provokes me enough. Sometimes it's hard to specify when I'm just in a plain bad mood. You see the main reason behind all this is because I was recently diagnosed (along with a lot of other disorders I have)with Intermittent Explosive Disorder. I break out into an uncontrollable rage if i get set off somehow. I just need a few tips on solving this problem so that way I'm no longer regarded as a monster.

>>7 Ah, so you already have consulted a specialist. That's great, if you can get his help you may be able to live with your disorder. My advice would be to follow the specialist's instructions, if he gave you any.

Also, remember to smile randomly. Every time you remember this, or even more often. It'll make you happier by itself. Really!

my dad told me:
something annoys you? take it *grab* and trow it over your shoulder!!
it helped me, i actually did exactly that movement.

I have violant erges th scare me more than shizuo.

once when i was 5 i lost control of my anger that i scared my mother and my sister and she didn't say anything to me and didn't get near me she even told the whole family to stay away from me it was so sad so my father said to hear music that i like so i can find my peace and clam and then handed me a stuffed animal and said "i want you to lose your anger on this toy" so i did days have passed and my anger got worse so then my father told me that by drawing what you feel is helpful in many ways and it did after that all of this things helped me so if i doesn't work tell me k .:)

If you let anger go in an animate object, researchers really show it will be very damaging. The more you became mad, the more you resort to violence. Anger seldomly hurt others, but always hurt yourself. Besides, letting go is always the best way. Do not allow him to take away your hapiness. Btw, meditation helps alot..

Keep the suggestions flowing guys. I thank you all who have posted some helpful ideas. :) And when I feel things are getting better, I'll let this thread die, but keep it coming for now. Thank you again.

Play a song in your head. I recommend something calming and soothing. Maybe try Shiro's woodpecker song.

>>15 Oh! I remember that song! I'll try that as well. :)

Well, I recommend listening to some "cute" songs. "Dango Daikazoku" for instance.

I'm tired of seeing this thread without actually saying anything. I've helped a lot with anger threads, so maybe it'll help you too. I've learned this in psychology.

There's a process in your brain called the Dopamine reward system. If you didn't know, Dopamine is the main of the four hormones in the brain that I call "happy hormones" and it is the only one that's only purpose is to make you happy.

There are several things that cause a release in Dopamine. This is how the Dopamine reward system starts. When you do something that releases dopamine, your mood improves. Things that cause this are exercise, chocolate, looking at someone with a proportional face (basically someone that's hot), or smiling. I'm sure there's more, but those are the only things that I've been told.

When I say exercise, I don't mean actually lifting weights or running. While this does also help, it could be anything. Go play tag with a friend. Go take a jog with your dog. While your active, it counts. This also helps because it improves your body shape, which makes you feel better about yourself. It also just leaves you too exhausted to give a fuck by the end of the day.

Eating chocolate releases dopamine, but I don't have much else to say about it. I guess that's why girls like chocolate when they're depressed.

Looking at someone that's hot helps when you make eye contact. Why this works? Your brain must be rewarding you for catching the attention of a hot person. This is why people stare at hot people.

Smiling helps a lot. It's also the easiest to do when you can't do the others. The more you smile, the more dopamine released, the happier you are, and the cycle goes on.

I haven't heard this with the Dopamine reward system, but it's proven that people with pets live longer happier lives. You feel accomplished. It helps to feel unconditionally loved by your pet. I've seen people cheer up at the cite of a cute cat or dog or whatever. Cute animals helps.

My advice? Get a dog and run with it twice a day. IT's good for the dog and you. Get one from the shelter. These dogs will love you unconditionally because you literally just saved them from a hell hole. Then you're active and you have the cute pet for double dopamine. When you're at school or something, then you just smile. It feels weird at first to smile when your not happy, but it helps pretty quickly. Try to smile, laugh, or listen to a good joke. If you have a hard time smiling for no reason, then try to find a good joke to make you laugh.

I'm a girl but I also have the same problem. But im not some muscular freak. Its just I act without thinking things through. Alot of people piss me off and in the family of which i was raised, its is also like this. I don't want people to hate me, but all the guys say i have an anger issue.. I want to start the new school year with a better reputation..

>>19 Well, if you ran into me somewhere on the street, you wouldn't think I'd be capable of ripping out a street sign or anything, however, that is pretty much the case if I get ticked off. I am very destructive and dangerous when I snap. I'm glad to know that you can relate to me. Maybe some of the suggestions on this thread can not only help me, but it can help you as well. Because I feel you. I'm actually about to transfer to a new school and I want to be able to get through without everybody being afraid of me. So, in short this will help us both out. Thank you for sharing. :)

This might sound a bit too simple and/or common sense, and I'm not sure if it applies to you, but do you get enough sleep? By that I mean do you more or less consistently wake up feeling well-rested and refreshed? Without an alarm clock? I've noticed myself that when I'm sleep-deprived I'm really irritable and cranky and in a foul mood.

If you have an actual anger "problem" that's more psychological in nature or something like that, this may not be a solution, but it might be a contributing factor. If lack of sleep or poor sleep is a contributing factor, I think being at least a little better rested on a regular basis would help with your anger.

Well, there are most days where I'm just very tired because sometimes I wander around outside when I can't seem to fall asleep. Though it puts me in a bad mood sometimes, it saps my energy so I don't really react that much. But when I do get enough sleep, I'm a live time bomb so to speak. Even when I'm not tired I still can be... scary...

HEY! HEY MARGO! I GAVE YOU ADVICE IN >>10! MY ADVICE ONLY HELPS IF YOU READ IT AND DO IT!

>>23 You mean >>18.

>>23 I'm working with it.

>>25 What >>24 said. I typoed. Read >>18. It may be long, but it's useful. So many nice helpful people on today.

>>9 My little sister annoys me. Shall I throw her over my shoulder? :p

I used to have serious anger problems just like you but I kind of mellowed out. Now I just have a severe lack of compassion.

My advice would be to find something fun like a sport or a game and do that. Also maybe find a standup comedian that you like. I guess that ties in with the whole dopamine talk.

I think the best thing to do is to just think about what you want your life to be like. Try to achieve what you decide will make you happy and content. Also think about how others perceive you and your actions. If you can realize that it's very counter productive to throw desks at people, then it's easier to stop.

Well, I hope I helped. Even a little. This is coming from someone who is probably the exact opposite of you. It would take a room full of screaming babies to make me angry. I suffer from a severe case of IDGAF.

Simple. Take anger managment class.