>>7 Oh gosh, I totally get you. I'm in the same situation, not in the middle of it though, just watching from the borders...My mom is a control freak too, she likes to micromanage and then get angry about being stressed because we make her stressed.....wut.
There was a time when the two didn't get along, they fought a lot. -obviously- But you know what? I figured, everything is a phase.
So, my two dollahs to you are:
1. Inform your mother that you are NOT your brother, you have your own ambitions you strive to achieve. Take her advice on college, and learning, and educational, life lessons and stuff, don't cut her words off completely. Just make sure you are able to tell her what you feel. If she doesn't listen, then leave her be. Sometimes it takes repetition to learn something. Anyways, maybe setting some conversation limits with her? Things like no interruption, no raised voices. If those are crossed, a warning by a mediator (ure dad?), if crossed again then the conversation is over. Things like that.
Also, those conversation limits might help with your mom and brother's relationship as well. Or you could just wait it out. At some point in time, one of them will have to sacrifice something. Your job right now is to keep to your studies, keep your grades up (youre doin a fantabulous job btw) and look at the good things in life. Things such as your mom volunteering when you don't need the money. She obviously wants to DO something, so either let her sub or introduce her to a new hobby. That or she wants to be closer to you >_> *shudder*
Being grateful and keeping a good attitude helps lots. Eat those happy foods that make you happy. Not the fatty ones, the healthy happy ones like fruits. :D They actually do help you be happier.
Yeah. thats all i can think of right now. Hope your family gets a grip of the true meaning of relationships, all families should have it. Maybe you just need to take your family to the next level? Or....maybe you all need to undergo a family challenge that would reunite each other? Oh wait, I'm just randomly typing. Wutevs. see you laturrr o/