I have a question for all the girls out there. I see allot of relationships rise and fall for a variety of reasons. I know each person has their own needs and interests in the people they are attracted to or drawn to. I just want to know what girls are looking for in a boyfriend. So please be open and honest. Thanks.

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Use common sense, mainly. Don't lie, don't cheat, don't call a girl a bitch (even if you're joking), don't comment on their eating habits, don't be a whiny little pussy, don't talk about your ex's, don't ask for a girl back after the relationship is over (doesn't matter who dumped who), and don't be clingy. Clingy guys are fucking annoying.

Hand holding? Why not. That's cute. But when guys walk around with their arms around you and shit? The only thing I can think of is, "Fuck off, you overbearing jackass."

Don't try to keep a girl from her guy friends, and don't accuse her of "flirting" unless you have solid proof and have seen her touching/suggesting sexual things to someone. Don't be over protective, don't try to play any part in her business life, and don't be afraid to take charge, but stop if she's obviously not ready.

I agree with a lot of what BarabiSama said, but 10reaper01 is wrong. You asking means that you care. That you probably want to be the best you can be for a certain someone. Hopefully, just be yourself. Cliche, I know. Unless, of course, you're an asshole. And what asshole asks this question in the first place? I hope everything works out for you.

>>4 I say that because generalizing all women in that way is ignorant. If you have to be told to use common sense (>>3), you're an idiot. None of that is "what women want"; it's how you should treat people in general. You can't go out and generalize all the things women want the same way you can't generalize all the things men want.

>>5 Hence why he's asking for thoughts from multiple people, you asshat. Nobody is generalizing anything here, just asking around for opinions. OP even stated that they knew each person would be different. I consider you ignorant for not even reading the post properly.

On topic: I second MOST of what Bambi said, but remember to take each post here with a grain of salt. As I'm not a girl I can't answer this, but just keep in mind that the girls that post here will likely be posting their own preferences that fit their personality. (IE: If you want to date Bambi, don't be a little bitch. If you wanted to date me, be soft, that's cool.)

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wow. i'll just ignore whatever happened there...

since he's asking for a sort of individualism, I also agree with Bambi, but I'll put my own opinions out:

I like a guy with personality, he doesn't exactly have to be good looking, just a guy who's got his values straight. If he respects women, then that's a plus. if he cusses, i spose it's okay, but as long as he's not a bomber if you know what I mean.
Cussing is a turn off (at least for me) because...well, it's just low-class. Being slow to anger is another thing I would fancy in a guy. hm...anything else? i personally like guys who are smarter than me, for both educational, and hopefully he'd be a kind soul to set me straight when I'm wrong. Stuff like that.

And yeah, I don't enjoy guys who like being 'tough', idk if that's normal or not. I super hate those really ugly macho muscle men. OH MAN. They are prolly them most hidayous stuffs out thar. Showing emotion and fear helps sometimes, being super tough and trying not to cry sometimes is just stupid. And just being a good listener. Girls like to talk, even the super quiet ones, so you know....just listen to her. Anyways, I'm feeling invincible

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6EfhAFA2yFE

so, i dont have my guy values straight right nao. YARDEEHARHARHARHAR.

Just be yourself.

>>9 This. No girl wants a guy who's faking, they want someone who's not afraid to be themselves. Don't worry too much about it; if a girl doesn't like you for who you are, they're not the one for you.

Thx for all the responses. I really appreciate the honesty. The idea was simply to prove a point. I'm not trying to use this as a way to get into a relationship or for dating advice or whatever. I just wanted to see if it was true. You always see these kinds of ideas in movies and stuff but sometimes ideas from movies aren't true. I just wanted to see if this was true. Thx everyone.

I suppose I only have a few things.

I think I would like it if the guy actually paied attention and remember stuff I've said. -.-'
And the guy can't be anyone else but themself. Just act as you are and don't be afraid to "be soft". I actually think that's really cute.
Respect. That's just something that ought to be. Respect if she doesn't want to do someting and of caurse she has to do the same. Just not TOO pushy. (If I were in a relationship I would probably need someone who is a bit pushy otherwise we wouldn't move forward)

Well. I suppose that's what I know. It's just to be whoever you are. That should work.

I guess my opinion will fit in nice here. There are many things that I say that "want" in a guy, but I've really only liked one guy, despite the fact that I've dated three and none of them were him. The guys I've dated have all had qualities that I say I want, but the guy I like is different from them.

-He can make me laugh.
-He doesn't judge me based on what his friends think (His friends hate me, but he's still nice to me.).
-He's smart.
-If someone talks bad about me behind my back, he won't come up and say, "Hey! You'll never guess what Bob said about you! He says you're a bitch and your loud."
-He doesn't argue with me (He argues with pretty much everyone.).
-He's a gentleman (Holding open doors, Letting a girl wait in front of a place while he takes the car around, He helped me up and down curbs when I was wearing high -heels.)
-He doesn't insult me (Even as a joke and even if I think it's true.).
-He lets me borrow his jacket.

Hmm. Now that I look that list over it looks like I'm setting high standards. There IS a guy out there like this though. He just doesn't like me back. :( On a side note. I kind of think it'd be cute if I had a boyfriend who'd hold my hand and put his arm around my waist.

>>13 Why were you wearing high heels if you couldn't walk in them? :|

Personally I like guys who insult me as a joke. Being that close to someone where you can insult each other and laugh about it feels wonderful ^.^

>>14 I can walk in them just fine. He was just nice.

I like it when guys are sweet to me and when guys do things for me even when its not our date night or whatever.

>>16 See, that would bother me. I don't mind soft guys, and I like gentlemen, but I can't stand it when guys do unnecessary things. It just feels like they're trying too hard, and that makes me feel like the asshole if they have to put that much effort into 'pleasing' me.

>>3 >>18 Before someone says these are contradictory, allow me to say this: there's a difference between being soft and being a whiny pussy. Whiny pussies cry and whine if they don't get what they want, and they cling and won't let you do anything. A soft guy is willing to show his feelings but still care about yours.

>>16 I understand that It seems like theyre over compensationg to please you.

>>18 I like it because it shows he cares. It's not like he had to please me. We were out as friends.

also you just gotta be yourself and hope that she likes you back if not then it wasnt meant to be there is no point in changing your self to get a girl

What do I seek from a boyfriend?
Well, to be short:
1. A humorist but knows when to be serious
2. Compatible with me, having similar interests
3. Understands me and my circumstances, knowing what's best for me
4. Not too clingy but still makes me feel special
5. Loyal to me

Done, I think that are generally what I want to be in an ideal boyfriend.
Looks, intelligence, and reputation could be fixed.

Mariya Shidou <3

I'm a girl here. And well, after seeing various relationship breaking up and friends coming to me crying their eyes out, I've drawn this conclusion:

Girls don't really know what they look for in a partner at all.

We THINK we do; but we really don't. Ultimately, probably just someone who can accept us for who we really are, no fakes. So, just be yourself! ^v^

>>25 That's the worst advice you could give some people. :/

>>26 Agreed.

Think about it, Rinkaki.

>>26
>>27
Oh my god, did I say something horribly wrong? Or was it my phrasing?
The advice I gave was "just be yourself".

Umm, so I may have spoken my honest thoughts without thinking and consequently, over-generalized the whole feminine population. That's a fallacy. My apologies. u_u

Hmmm. A nice boyfriend for me is someone who's a bit rough, but doesn't try to hurt me seriously. Um...its very flattering if a boy opens the door for a girl but i tend to do it vice versa. Oh, cussing isnt very appealing, and I tend to shy away from guys who do. Someone who can understand you, and knows if youre feeling down. And I love a bit of humour~

Well I've only had one boyfriend. He's amazing, but he doesn't see it. We're essentially the same. We're both strong, and have gone through a lot of pain in our lives before we met eachother. We don't trust many people and I'd say I trust him most. The most important thing that I look for in a guy is if I can trust him completely that I feel that I could go hang out with him without him trying to pressure me into something.

>>28 No, I'm pretty sure they're implying that not everybody has a great personality. By being their shitty selves, nobody will ever want to go out with them or be with them. If you're a selfish jackass, and you decide to "be yourself" to your girlfriend, what do you think is going to happen?

>>@28, A lot of this, but I feel as though you should be yourself to some extent. Truth is better than deceit, and speaking from experience it sucks pretending to be something you're not. But as Bunnybra stated, if you want a girlfriend and you are a selfish jackass, then you should probably do something about that.

>>32 I actually meant >>31 sorry :V

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i want someone awesome. :1 with that personality.

bump. ;o

a relationship like marshall and lily from how i met your mother! HAHAHA and some of barney's awesomeness.

>>31 Thank you for clearing that up. Yeah, you're right. "Be yourself, but don't be a jerk." is a better way to put it, isn't it?

Thx for the honesty. Glad to see and hear some honest answers now and then. And as for 10reaper01, I do have a girlfriend and as I said I'm not looking at this for tips. I was just trying to see what people want. When you're with someone you actually love and cherish it becomes something of a mission to make that person feel as happy as they make you. What I wanted to do with this thing was to prove a point that even if you could make one girl happy its not necessarily mean you can make all girls happy. Yes there are a few basic things, but each person has their own likes dislikes. Yes honesty is important in any relationship because without it either party can be unhappy, ya know. Anyways thank you everyone for the honesty.

Come on... Is it not obvious? Women want space helicopters! Damnit, why does nobody see it?

Women want to be wanted. Boom. Dropped the knowledge.

>>25 This.

Women have no idea what they want.
They are very "complex" creatures.

Women want to be happy.

It depends on the culture.

Women are complicated. It's hard to know what they want.
I should know, I am a woman! XD

All I want is someone to hug and chocolate. Loooots of chocolate.

depends on the woman.

>>44 I have some chocolate does that mean im a good canidate.

>>46 Haha XD Yes, I suppose. I'm already taken, but I'd gladly be your friend.

>>46 yesXD

Anyways,in all seriuosness,I personally like a guy who can makeme smile and laugh,even when its an hour later and he's not around.A sweet guy,the kind who's nice,but not overbearing.Smart,but not too smart.As long as he knows that H2O and water are the same thing.Charming,the kind of guy who you really look forward to seeing every day.And definatly the kind of guy who will care.Who wont be shy or a huge dick about you in front of his friends/in public.No Danny Zucco at the bonfire shit.You know,the kind who will hold your hand,wrap his arm around you,hug you in public.Not the whole kiss-that-looks-like-mouth-rape kind of thing,but sweet.