Well, I don't know how to start.. I don't have another place to talk about this except bbs.

I'm a girl, and I have a friend. The first time I talked to her was when I still in 4th grade. And now both of us already 15 years old, and in our first year high school. (sorry for bad grammar, english is not my native language). Both of us joined an extracuricular, here in my country called 'paskibra' (pasukan kibar bendera) or... what was it... flag rising team? (you can google it if you don't understand my weird explanation)

In paskibra, we must have a lot of stamina. Because the exercise are very tiring. But my friend, she has a..... weak heart and sometimes it relapse. after half a year, I quit paskibra because my parents didn't allow. (In paskibra, we must share a bottle of drinks or foods for all members) He said that, maybe one of the students have a dangerous disease that can infect all of us. And he also dislikes the way my seniors coaching us, it's like they didn't have an adult for guide, or something like that.

And after I quit paskibra, C continued that activity, and worse. She added another activity like paskibra, and it makes her disease worse. She joined teenage red cross in my
school, and more or less, the activity are same like paskibra.

In teenage red cross, she have a boyfriend who is older than her by one year (our senior).

And here is the problem : I hate him very much. He always showing how lovey dovey he is with my friend. He said that he is very care with her, scared of losing her, and something like that. But when her heart relapse, he know nothing about it. He has a responsibility as a senior, and as her boyfriend, he knew about her heart problem, but he still force her to do the activities in red cross and paskibra. In my point of view, it's like telling my friend to suffer.

Her boyfriend is my acquintance from an online game. The one who introduce him to my friend was me. I felt guilty if something happens to her because of him. But I'm too shy to tell this by myself. What should I do?

p.s : sorry if you can't understand me and my bad grammar ._.

There's a difference between forcing her and promoting her. If he is forcing her, he would be ordering her to do stuff. If he is promoting her, he'd push her as far as she can go but only if she still has the will.

Besides, the worse thing to tell a person is that they can't do something because of god's fucked up ways.

Oh, I'm never think that he's promoting her. Well, I will try to be more optimistic.

I just.. scared if the activity will make her heart condition worse and... she died. It's tiring, she enjoy it, but she relapse more in these days compared to last year. I'm just.. scared if I lose her.

whoa had to stop eatin muh pizza to do this. Find yerself very happy okay? pizzaaaa is really gud. sorry fer muh spellin.'

The best thing possible, i feel, is to tell your friend how you are feeling. Sit her down and COMMUNICATE with her. Tell her that you worry that she will worsten her disease if she continues to take such activities. Truth is, you can't make her stop, that's her choice and her choice alone. If she does do something horrible to cause her to have a heart-attack persay, then you as her friend should know WHAT to do, and WHEN to do it. You should stick by her side, show her that you worry but support her.

As for her boyfriend, you are their mutual friend. You should really tell your friend how you feel about him, and that you believe she should tell him about her heart condition. Not only that, but if she refuses to tell him within a set time limit, you MUST tell him. Letting a friend die because you couldn't get yourself to say a life-saving sentence is just disgusting. Tell her, tell him.

Be honest. Don't use phrases that feel like theyre pointing at her in a bad way, but phrases that project how YOU feel. Not how you want her to feel. I hope that part made sense. I just woke up. But don't worry. The key is being honest in your communication.

Thank you Kaori, and King Dude. I will try to talk with her :)