Oh God...WHY? I just found out that my girlfriend is pregnant. Yes, it was from me. But...I didn't expect for her to go through one emotional thing after another. SHES ONLY FUCKING 16...I love her so much...and her parents are going to kill her when they find out, if they haven't already. So, I'm wondering what we should do about it. I feel horrible about it all...

Do every thing you can. See if abortion is possible. If she doesn't support that idea, then maybe let her have the baby and put it up for adoption. They won't kill her. And you should probably tell your parents about it too.

Get as much adult support as you can, and if you love her then stay by her side no matter what. If her parents disown her,see if yours will accept her.

Don't forget that you BOTH are responsible for what you're going to go through. I have a friend who is going through the same thing, except her boyfriend dumped her and ran from the responsibility. Then she had to move the next town over with a friend.

I wish you luck though.

You should man up and take responsibility. You had sex. You knew the possible consequences, but did it anyways. I'm also going to go ahead and assume you guys didn't use a condom or birth control either, am I right?

>>3 that's a distinct possibility

>>2 Thank you.
>>3 I refuse to actually "Thank" you...considering how you didnt give me very much advice...but youre right about us not using a condom or birth control...

I know we shouldnt have had sex...but at the time...we were too crazy to say otherwise...I'll just have to stay by her side like >>2 said...

>>5 The first question I want to ask you is "why". Why would you continue to have unprotected sex at the risk of a child that neither of you are ready for?

The second thing is like I said, man up. She's fucking pregnant at 16. Whether or not she shows it, she needs support, and the best thing you can do is no matter how scared you are, put on that straight, grit your teeth, and be the rock that she needs to lean on.

>>7 straight face*

>>7 First of all: WE ONLY DID IT ONCE!

Second of all, I know that I need to be there for her. And Im going to be. Im not gonna be a total bitch and abandon her in her times of need. As much as I am scared, I am also ready to do WHATEVER it takes to be there for her. So, please be a little more caring...But, thanks for the "Support"

>>9 Even just once, unprotected sex is never a good idea unless you are prepared to have a child.

That's all you can really do. The rest is up to her. And don't mistake my tone for a lack of support. When it comes down to a serious matter, that's just how I am.

>>1 >>9 >>10 This feels fishy... :|

Did she just tell you, or did she show you the pregnancy test? If she showed you the pregnancy test, how long was it between the time she took it and the time she showed you it?

Despite what your health classes say, it isn't normal to get pregnant after your first time having sex.

Lol.. we only did it once. Thats like saying you cant get stds after only one try. But i agree with >>11 that it doesnt sound like all know the whole story

>>11 But why am I feeling fishy?

deal with it head on. her parents are going to find out anyway, and it would be best to clear that up now. do you know how your parentts are gonna react?

gif^

sorry if it sounds like I'm being a dick

Uh, you know not having sex until youre partially prepared for a kid kind of helps prevent knocking up your teenage girlfriend, right?

>>18 This, also.

>>18 I....honestly chuckled when I saw that.....

BUT, thanks to everyone who at least tried to not be a dick.

>>20 I'd appreciate it if you could answer my questions, kid :V

>>21 Oh sorry...(That, and how do you know Im not older than you, eh?...besides the......somewhat obvious) Anyway....to answer your first question: She showed it to me. And, to answer you second: it was just a few hours.

>>22 I don't give two fucks how old you are. It's more than once that you've acted like a child on this site. Either way, I can address you as I like :V

It would be hard for her to make it up, in that case :/ (Girls lie about being pregnant pretty often, actually, so don't be offended by my suspicions.)

First, see if she's willing to get an abortion. Second of all, don't leave her just because she's pregnant. If you do decide to leave her, I hope you fall off a bridge and die. (I don't say that to most people, but anyone who leaves a pregnant girl alone deserves that.)

>>23 Thanks. (And...when have I acted like a "child")

>>24 (I'll let you figure that out yourself.)

>>25 ....Fine...fine...

>>23 Oh, and incidentally, I would never leave her. Not even for a million dollars. I gladly would allow you to push me off of a bridge if I left her. Which...I wont...so, thats basically it...

>>23 Oh Barabi. You say that to most people. Xp

Anyways, OP, your questions have already been answered adequately so I will just reiterate what others have said; Abortion or tough it out.

>>28 No, I don't. I don't verbally or mentally wish pain or death upon just anybody; my morals don't condone saying that. It jinx's things. However, anybody who leaves a pregnant girl alone deserves to be jinx'd.

>>27 Good boy.

What if its not his baby>>29

>>29 I was only kidding!

Anyways, it's good that he isn't going to leave her.

Confess. Nothing can go right if you don't. That's how I learned from many people who went into the same issue.

>>30 If she cheated (not rape)? Then fuck her; she deserves to be alone without anyone around her. But if a guy goes out with a pregnant girl and then leaves? Fuck him.

>>1 Wow... I mean... just wow. I have nothing to actually say... you fucked up dude that's all.... just... wow ._.

>>33 So if the girl was pregnant before hand, but didnt know, and told him after a while, you would think him a douche for saying "nope cant handle this, Im leaving you." Seems kind of ridiculous on your part.

>>34 Well, you did a fine job of sounding like a total jackass. Thanks a bunch for your support.

First tell both of your parents then see what option you have

Well, being extremely young and not having any experience with anything like this I can only give you some general life advice...
Don't fuck up AGAIN.
Stay with her and help her through it, and try to tell your the parents (both yours and hers) that you'll try to make things right, even if they refuse you. You have to be strong. There are worse sins in the world...
This sort of thing happens a lot in my city, and all I know is that some of the couples make it and others don't - some very close friends of mine know this from firsthand experience (they grew up in these sorts of families) and for some their lives are broken while others are fine. The ones who are just fine had hard-working parents who tried their best to move on, the ones who are broken were too busy being guilty to help anyone.
That's just how it is.

The choices are:

A.) Abortion
B.) Go through with it and keep the baby
C.) Go through with it and give the baby up

The choice is yours. And the one thing you must never forget is that it's YOUR choice, so don't let people push you one way or the other. You have to ask yourself, are you financially and mentally set for a kid? If you aren't, the choices are A and C. It's sad for the kid to be aborted or given up, but it would be sadder to see all three of you suffer because of financial turmoil.

LOOKS LIKE YOU FUCKED UP RETARD. CONGRATS :D EVER HEARD OF THE WORD "CONDOM"?
IF YOU DONT WANT THE BABY, JUST PUSH THE BITCH DOWN SOME STAIRS AND MAKE SURE SHE LANDS ON HER STOMACH

Lemon not nice, look just try your best for the girl and your child. you had sex and she has became pregnant, so what you do you try to take care for her and the child. protect them.

JASHIN JUST STOP TALKING TO ME.
IM NOT THE ONE WHO GOT A BITCH PREGNANT

how could you know shes a bitch, cause right now you acting just like one.

I MAY BE ACTING LIKE ONE, BUT LET ME ASK YOU THIS...
IF YOU FIND ME SO ANNOYING, WHY DO YOU KEEP REPLYING TO EVERYTHING I SAY?

becaue you could hurt someones feelings by the posts you make. and im trying to make them look away by delaing with it, rageing or argueing on a site is usless and makes people mad and it afects their lives, i dont so i will try to use my words to restrain their anger, and i hope the best for everyone, even you.

WELL THATS THEIR PROBLEM IF THEY LET SOMEONE FROM THE INTERNET BOTHER THEM

>>46 what's they the caps lock? are you trying to be someone who is all big and bad or what?

The caps lock button has on off option too ya know. Just makes you look like more of an idiot if you do it on everythang

>>47 NO YOU DUMB LEZ I LIKE CAPS LOCK, IS THAT SO WRONG? FUCK YOU IF IT IS

>>48 NO SHIT.I ALREADY KNOW THAT I CAN TURN IT OFF. THANKS FOR THE INFO DUMBSHIT

>>49 thanks for a lesson in life, on when you call someone something. it's wrong.

and to everyone that i have called you something i am sorry. and who all agrees that lemon should be banished from here?

and sorry yes i am not a great speller. i suck, i know. just please don't complain about it. like i said i suck when it comes to spelling something right. i am really sorry about it.

I agree that it would be greatly appreciated if everyone stopped baiting Lemon by responding like whatever they posted was a big fucking deal.

>>50 HAHA TOO BAD YOU CANT BAN RIGHT?? STUPID FUCK
....but really,all trolling aside,dont hurt yourself though, ok..? its just the internet. dont take this so seriously

>>51 GO DIE IN A GUTTER DUMB LEZ

Lemon, can you understand people older then 12, I.E. not you, cant fit in a normal house gutter.

>>53 YOU FUCKING SON OF A BITCH! How the FUCK can you sleep at night...MY GF IS NOT A BITCH! You fucking GODDAMN SON OF A BITCH! How the hell old are you? TWELVE? Anyway...even if you were trolling...Im still going to call you a son of a bitch. Because trolls dont belong on this site.

>>55 I think you're missing a crucial point in how to handle trolls, and I'm not going to explain it to you.

You too, Joshin.

>>55 HAHAHA YOUR MAD RIGHT? THAT BITCH SHOULD GO DIE
SHE SHOULD HAVE AN ABORTION
NAH, I'LL STAY HERE FOR A WHILE
HAVE A NICE DAY FUCKER

>>57 Could you just shut the fuck up and get out? ^^

Sooooo... call bossman?

>>58 Shh, that only encourages him/her to post more.

>>57 Lemon. What a dumb name, but descriptive of yourself. Let's see the similarities:

1.) No Brain
2.) Fell from a tree
3.) Neither X nor Y chromosomes
4.) Small

Now go back to your 1000 or so inbred siblings and leave, cause we sure as hell don't want you here.

Oh and I almost forgot, fuck you.

Please stay with her and go through with it. You could put the baby up for adoption. At least they will be able to live a life that way

>>61 Read the post above yours and shhhh.

Stay wit her cause no woman wants to do this herself just take care of her. If theres love youll stay

Alright, seriously consider abortion on here. I don't want to get into an argument, so please don't reply and start a fight. Look up facts on abortion, when people say it "kills" the baby it is in fact a lie. Actually, you are ending a zygote or clump of cells before it forms into anything. It is not like when you get pregnant magically and instantly a 6 pound baby forms. This is what gets me mad; when people do not know the facts. No joke yo. Please really consider it.

>>65 Maybe you should take an Ap Bio class, because unless you haven't, you don't truly understand the concept of the formation of a baby.

A baby is a zygote. A zygote IS diploid. To be diploid it requires two cells. Two haploid cells, one from mother and one from father. When those two come together a zygote is formed and that tiny microscopic zygote then goes through mitosis, creating multiple daughter cells and in the long run creating a child. Now if you haven't noticed, abortion is for all UNBORN children. Unless you're really dumb at this, they kill babies that are of all sizes and ages, even 8 month olds. It doesn't matter. Abortion is the ending of life. Ending of a child that could have, would have, and should have lived. Every child should have a chance at life.

Whoa, wait, and you? What about you? Oh that's right. According to you, you were dead and unimportant when you were in your mother's womb, especially when she saw your heart beat, and your finger nails, and your toes, and face, and closed eyes. You were definitely dead. That zygote became you. And honestly, it's basically zygotes building up to show natural humanistic characteristics such as your hands and etc. Your hands and 'etc' dont make you who you are, it's the fact that you have life, and a soul, and that no other thing: not an animal or a plant or a rock <_< have life.

What exactly is wrong with adoption? I see a child who needs a family, and a family who needs a child. You could very well be helping someone as well as helping yourself.

*have in the first sentence. :O

>>67 mfw Kaori fixes a typo.

Anyway, what do you mean, an animal and plant don't have life? You take AP Bio, right? Then you should know that they are alive, as well. Maybe your religion restricts you from thinking they have souls, but not everyone believes that way.

What's wrong with adoption? Do you know what adoption is like in America? You have to jump through hoops to adopt a child here, so the majority of children who are adopted are from other countries. We have such an overflood of children to be adopted here that most end up with foster families or in other special care facilities for parentless kids until they're eighteen and are kicked out. Adoption isn't pretty. I don't know nor care about anywhere else; however, I know that adopting in the US is a pain in the arse. There are a few nice, pretty stories about how easy it is, but those are rare. The majority of the people who want to adopt have to go through a three year process, and by then they could have adopted a child anywhere else.

Why would you want to put your child into that environment? What if it doesn't get adopted? What if it has to live with foster families until it's eighteen? What if it has an abusive foster family? I wouldn't want to risk putting a child I gave birth to in this situation. In my opinion, a baby isn't a person until it is born. Until then, it is a parasite in a mother's womb.

>>68 I am offended by what you say but i defend to the death your right to say it.

Honestly take care of the child once its born. Thats all i can say

>>69 The majority of that wasn't opinion.

>>68 >>70 MFW Barabi lays it down.

The first word that came to my mind after reading your post is 'ELOPE'..there's so much dilemma on both sides..I want to say talk to the girl's parents & let the child live, but since you mentioned about your GF's tendency to be hurt by her parents, then I guess amicable settlement is somewhat inappropriate..so when the world is against both of you, then just elope..besides, you both love each other so much, right?

Good luck on whatever decision it is..hopefully it's for the good of all..

^__^

To those who talk like they know everything, you're aren't helping.

DO NOT ABORT THAT BABY. If you can't take care of it, put it up for adoption.

I was 16 and I was pregnant. I financially, obviously couldn't have the baby, and my living circumstances made the situation even worse. I had to get an abortion.
Honestly, it's a terrible terrible thing to do, but the people at the abortion clinic told me that it's okay. If I had that baby, his or her life would've been terrible. If I had kept my baby, I wouldn't be able to finish school, wouldn't be able to have a decent job, and my parents would suffer trying to help me raise a child. If I had given that child away, what IF he or she had been mistreated? Then he/she would grow up cursing life. Either way, he or she would look for me. Because that's what most adopted kids want to do; find their true parents and find out why.
So, honestly. If you cannot take care of that child, if you can't give that child a decent future, aborting that child would be better, not only for you and her, but for that child as well.
And if you are going to abort it, you HAVE to be with her through the whole entire process, because it's a trip to hell and back.

Don't abort it. Just give it for adoption. Or if you can take care of it then do all you can to do so. I've never been in this situation but I know it's bad but just don't abort it because you are basically killing some thing how I see it. And who knows? Maybe it would worth it in the end?

>>75 This.

Sorry I have not posted an update before now, but, we had to get an abortion. I mainly was convinced by >>75. Thank you. I'm still not for abortion, but at least we don't have to suffer through the financial trouble. Thanks to those who gave me advice.

Teen pregnancy dude. Check it, you got a kid on the way and the time for silly games and fun with your friends is over. I hate to tell it to you like that but the world ain't gonna feed life to you on a teaspoon. Y'a gotta take it as is and deal with it.

>>79, I hope you do realise that this has pretty much been resolved with >>78's post. There really wasn't much need to bump this up, lol.

Adoption?

People, thread is over. Op responded with the results, quit commenting.

Neverrrrrrrrrrrr

Sigh~ Oh Magnolia.... You remind me of Taco_Bean......

Yeah I was being an ass on purpose, while U just made ur self an ass by not saging ur comment. Whoops

Magnolia, leave forever.
I don't like you at all.

>>86 dude u already said that. Please get over it. If it makes u feel better I never really like you either? Anyway, I feel kinda guilty arguing on this thread so just stop here will you?

>>87

Double.
Nigger.