umm hello people...
so me and a guy are going out and our relationship isn't going to good(we only been together for about a week) i mean we talk and all but thats it ;___ ;..
what should i do can any one give me tips?
i am a shy person and so is he and i just want us to be a cute couple and all but how do i talk to him and stuff ...
you know hug him flirt with hime ans stuff..

If he really likes you, flirting isn't necessary.
If he doesn't want the relationship to move that fast, don't make it.

Don't try to put him into a compromising position. If he doesn't want to kiss or do anything, so what? You should be grateful you're with someone you like in the first place rather than try to push flirting and shit on them. That's just showing that you're horny and immature.

How does just "talking" signify that you have a bad relationship?

>>2 Well Barabi, this is 2012.
Forcing physical intimacy is so in that even middle school kids, I assume, are doing it.

Seriously though OP, you probably aren't ready for a relationship if "just talking" is a bad relationship to you.

>>3

There's nothing wrong with being "old fashioned".

It beats the hell out of child support and a lifetime of regret. I have a friend going through a situation right now that even though he absolutely loves his little unplanned bundle of joy, I imagine he might have done things differently in the past had he considered the consequences.

>>1 its been a single week, nothing should be happening. pride yourself on not whoring yourself out to any guy you go out with.

Just based on the way you type and your diction, I'm going to make the assumption you must be in middle school, freshman in high school at best.

It seems as though you want others to view how you two look together in a certain light and that you have high expectations of what this relationship is supposed to be and what is supposed to be happening between the two of you. Judging by your assumed age it's safe to say you have developed these opinions by watching tv or reading.

My first word of advice to you is to do your best to drop what you think you should be doing and what you think the two of you should be like and be viewed. Every relationship developes in it's own way. Some go fast while others go slow. You seem to be wanting to jump the gun and get straight to the physical.

My advise is to not do that. First off, you've only been dating a week. When I was younger, a week seemed like a long time. It's not. A week is only seven days. That is not a long period of time. I don't think it is a good idea to be physical with someone who, lets face it, you barely know. There is nothing wrong with just talking to your significant other. You two should feel good about talking to each other with no limitations on the topic. Once you have a solid, sturdy hold on how the two of you get along together, then you can start worrying about the physical.

Honestly, you shouldn't even worry about the physical. Things happen whe they're meant to happen; when two people are comfortable enough with each other to do so.

As far as flirting goes, I assume you had to flirt with this guy to get his attention in the first place. Just keep doing whatever you did and that should really be enough.

Honestly, you didn't give us much to go on. But I can summarize my thoughts in short.

Don't worry about the physical. It will happen when it happens. Just because it happens a week in doesn't mean it's going badly. There is far more to a relationship than just kissing and hugging. Just be yourself around him and ask him to do the same. Just let things play out as they will. Thats how all the best relaionships happen in my opinion.

Don't worry. Just be yourself. Be happy that you aren't flirty. I feel that my personality makes me flirt with boys without even noticing. I heard someone say the other day when I was talking to some guy that we didn't "match" and now Im really worried that Im flirty, but I cant tell. So just be yourself, else why would you guys have been going out in the first place?

no comment on love unless its about me

I love how she says she wants to hug and flirt with him and you all assume she wants to whore herself out :')

>>1 Why not just ask him out on a date? Go to the cinema and watch a movie or something, or just go to the park. Just spend more time with him and you'll get closer and be more comfortable around each other :)
Don't push it too hard though, you have plenty of time :)

thank you luxis your the only person that actually understood me thanks for the advice

>>9 PARKKKKK. well if you don't live in Arizona, parks are the best in my opinion. Unless you hate outdoors and possibly bugs. Enjoy a nice picnic with food.

food.


FOOD.


LOTS OF FRIKUN FOOD.

And just....talk....before you know it, you two will be talking about something and wondering just how you started the conversation. Its the best thing, the worst he could say is: I dont want to talk about that. Just talk /o/

Luxis I agree with you ask him out to a ovie or out to eat etc etc.good luck shy girl and update us on how things are going if you dont mind.

You should know his hobbies and stuffs like that so you can get to know him more. And if ever you know his hobbies and the things he likes.. for example, he likes onigiri.. then you should made him one ;)

so both you and a your boyfriend are shy write well lets..... okay got it you should try to srae you likes in dislikes with him that always works and try to invite him to oplaces like go to the arcade or go to a park just hang out a little more. i can't really tell you anything that you might not already know because i never beeen in a relationship with anybody, but i can tell things that involes dateing base off my observation of people

thank you people i took advice from one person on here (don't want to go comment from comment trying to find there name)that said be your self because that's the only reason he asked you. or something like that anyways thanks... i also took advice from luxis and Kaori for good advice ^_^
anyways (replying to zoey)
so things are going great we talk more than we used to and right now we are planing a date for tomorrow because its going to be really sunny tomorrow ^_^
...
but there kinda is a new problem he's not going to the high school that i am :/
but im not really worried about that i still have like 29 days of school left

Well if one of you isn't moving then at least call him and plan out a time you can be together

Thanks for the reply Shy girl and Im glad things are so far working out. I hope your date goes well and so extra advice get his cell number and give him yours.

the date was great first we decided to help my friend with her car was and ended up getting wet but it was okay because it was really hot outside...
anyways i don't have a cell phone even though im going to high school next year -__- and he broke his and his parents wont get him a new one ...
and i guess ill spend most/some of my summer with him

Thats great to hear. Im sorry that you dont have a cell phone but at least you get to keep seeing the one you love.

Lady, remember this okay? =)

Love with always find a way, no matter what. If it takes 1 year, or 50 years, or even a week. Love always finds a away. I don't know if it's some work of passion or divine will or even dumb luck. get it? =) You'll be great n_n

thank you chitown shepherd ^_^