So I'm not too big on...well... asking for help, especially when it comes to women, but I'm a tad confused at the moment.
I'm currently in what can most accurately be described as an 'open relationship', which started out awesome mind you, for who can complain about regular sex without having all the drawbacks of being tied down... But I've run into a rather unexpected issue. I'm actually developing feelings for this girl... however I'm pretty damn sure she is comfortable with the situation we're in, she just got out of a relationship and I doubt that she would want to get into another right off the bat. So, what should I do? Should I risk my situation and go for it? Should I ignore my feelings and continue what we have been doing? Or should I break it off before it becomes any worse for me? Your thoughts?

I'd love to just say follow the rules of fuck-buddies, but if you really DO like her, not just her sex, then tell her.Even if it'd too early, later on she'll think about it.

>>2 The too early thing is an issue, I don't want to tell her mainly because at one point we were having a conversation about relationships, and she outright said, "I don't know, I hate being in relationships, I like guys who aren't very clingy and give me my space, I mean, what we have is perfect, right?"

Naturally I agreed at the time, because fuck that mess, that's like a clear sign against my initial option. But that was about 2 weeks ago. We have yet to discuss it since, however I've left it alone. I suppose I should just wait it out, and perhaps try to get her to develop feelings for me without being overbearing.

MAN, the first time I get a good 'fuck-buddy' thing going on, my feeling have to go and fuck it up... Stupid douchebag emotions. :I

What you need to do is get her to love you. Show her that your worth being around all the time; the man that she wants to cling on to. Just be "that awesome dude" around her make her notice you basically. How you go about it is totally up to you. Or just maybe you can just wait a little longer and things will roll from there; but that's dangerous because it gives other people the chance to get her first.

Exactly what >>4 said.

>>4 has a pretty good point, but i feel like we have to fall back on everything we know at this point

1.She has just gotten out of a relationship that has obviously not worked out
2.She likes he current set-up
3.The reason she likes the set up is because she doesn't like clingy dudes.

I think we need to focus on 3 here. What you have to do is get her to feel the same way about you without it being awkward, but if it does manage to develop into a relationship, you still have to give her her space.Don't blow her off, but don't text or visit her all the time. finding the balance will be tough, especially seeing as human demands shift all the time, but if you like her, and she likes you in the same way, it should work out. Back to the getting her to like you though, I say you should just play take things slowly. try to be cool, but not TOO cool. act natural, but whenever you see an opportunity to pick away at her "fuck-buddy" wall and break out of the sex fiend zone into the passionate lover area, take it, but don't break down the wall with a god damned wrecking ball. Do it with the rock hammer from the Shawshank Redemption. Don't want the other side knowing you're trying to break into their secret vaults, causing them to, instead of being your ally, breaking all contact with you or declaring war.

Ridiculous metaphors aside, the advice is quite serious. Good luck Mael-man. good luck.

Mael.. looking for love advice. I never thought I'd live to see the day.

Haven't you watched enough anime/read enough mangas to know what happens next?!

Be patient. On a certain rainy day, she'll be upset about something and confide in you. You can invite her over and BAM. Turn on your Mael-charms. With the help of some scented candles and a long talk about her feelings, she'll develop newfound feelings for you. Either that, or you'd get friendzoned. Er, I mean friendzoned even further. Friends for Benefits are the middle fence between relationships and the friend zone. It's one or the other Mael, be cautious.

If you really want a relationship with her, you could do 1 of two things

Tell her, or wait for it to happen naturally. Nobody can exactly chose for you since they don't know what she's like, so it's up to your judgement. I recommend telling her about it. But bring it up casually or something. You don't really want to screw up and miss your chance. I mean, if she finds a new partner, you've just lost your chance AND a fuck buddy. Just try.. failing is worst than regretting forever and ever.

But hell, what do I know about relationships? I don't know anymore, I'm too sleepy to be giving sound advice = n =

Your best bet it with >>4 and >>6. With that, I bid you Good Luck. Do post the results sometime soon.

lol. you're not going to be able to ignore your feelings for her, especially if you're engaged in an open relationship with her. that's how feelings usually originate. you can "TRY" to ignore them and let them grow deep down inside you until they fester and explode in some huge mess. so might as well cross "go along as normal" off your list. so now it's either break it off or go for broke. okay. METAPHOR: it's like if you found a free lottery ticket off the floor and asked yourself "should i scratch it and give it a shot, or not scratch it to avoid being disappointed?" bro, might as well. because if you don't, i guarantee you're going to be regretting it for a helluva' long time. you'll be thinking to yourself for years "what if i actually had the winning ticket?"