My best guy friend, that I've liked for a while now, from school just confessed to me last night that he likes me. I told him I liked him too. Even though he confessed to me over text message, I know he was truly sincere- I mean he like took 5 full message bubbles to type out his feelings! Sooo we are both aware that we both like each other. This is both our first time being liked in return by someone. We're both shy at times haha ^^ I guess I'll rewrite what he texted me, and when I woke up this mornining I pinched myself to see if I was dreaming when I reread it... I just want to share this because I haven't told my best girl friends and parents yet AND I'm unsure if this means him and I are dating now??

"(My Name), Took me a bit to work up the courage to tell you I like you. More than a friend though. I get asked out time to time and I say no cause I
like you. I only act really mature around you because I dont want you to think Im a loser or something. My friends always telling me to tell you how I feel.
Well I like you. If you dont feel the same way could we remain as friends? I would of told you earlier I just didnt know what to say and I didnt
want to sound stupid. I would have told you in person but I get embarrassed quite easily. I feel odd just sending this text. Im just telling you
I care for you more than just a friend. I dont really expect a reply right away or none at all. Just wanted to let you know how I feel for you."

I'm not a cryer, but after reading that I started crying, I mean a guy just confessed to me! This has never happened before it was like an exciting shock... never had a boyfriend or any interested in me in return. And since I'm his best friend, I know him well, he does pull any punches(like he doesnt joke). He's brutally honest in a way I can appreciate but can't even muster myself to say something- because 'I'm cute when I'm shy' he says. >.< I'm asleep right now and I'm dreaming aren't I????

Oh, and after he texted me that and I cried I texted him back conveying my feelings that I liked him too. Thats how he knows I like him too.

Okay.... Sooooooo... What does this have to do with us?

Ah, young love. So cute, but so hurtful at times.
No, I don't believe you two are truly dating until you confirm it. i.e., Ask him out?

>>3 Does it have to do anything with us? I believe she just wanted to share this with us and ask us for what I assume to be a bit of advice. I know if/when this happened to me I'd want to share it with the world. But then again, I'm a heartless bitch now, so maybe you shouldn't listen to my romance advice... xD

>>4 But advice on what? They didn't ask for help on anything...

>>4 is it ok to ask him out? i mean is it too soon?

Chances are it's not going to last

>>5 I may be wrong, but in my perception I saw it as an indirect from of asking for help, whatever the case. Quoted from the top: "AND I'm unsure if this means him and I are dating now??"

>>6
If you both are completely positive and sure about your feelings for one another, then yes, ask him out. It could just be "indirect" (reference from above) like sending something along the lines of, "So... are we dating now or...?" It will obviously be awkward, hence the "...'s", but I'm sure if you really like each other truly, it will be fine. From my past experiences it worked well.

But, Hitomi, keep in mind that if you two get "too serious" about dating each other, and then break up, you may not be as close of friends as you were. Unless you absolutely trust him to forgive you whatever the reason, make sure with him that you'll still be friends afterward. (This is only in the case that you ever break up, which sadly is likely)

I'm not trying to discourage you from dating him, it's up to you. If you have a chance at a healthy love, go for it.

I'll tell u guys how it goes

>>10 Unless you're here to seek advice, then we really don't need to know.

Does the guy ask out the girl, or does the girl ask out the guy?

>>12 Doesn't matter either way, honestly. In fact, I suggest you, the girl, ask the guy out. If he's uncomfortable with you having made the first move, beware of possible chauvinism ;O

Bump

>>13
What's chauvinism?

Good luck. At least the guy's got respect for his friend. Hard to find these days.

>>15 It can be a preferentiality towards your own group (race, sex, religion, et cetera). However, when it's used by itself in the modern age, it usually means a man who follows older beliefs, thinks men are greater than women, and are therefore offended when a woman tries to charge of everything. Unfortunately, there are still quite a few of them today, and >>13 is an easy way to tell if a kid grew up with those ideals :O That doesn't mean that they are 'chauvanistic', but it means they could become it or were at least exposed to it amongst their friends/family.

You ask him out. He confessed to you first (it takes more courage than you think), give him a break and ask him out. It'll make him feel that you're willing to put in the effort to keep the relationship going (which is a PLUS in a relationship).

Good luck

I am back! (dont make fun of me >.<)Alright, I asked him out in Spanish today (since we're both learning spanish) and he said yes. Asked him out in Spanish because who asks out their guy in spanish?? i wanted to be different XD I said- Quieres ser mi novio? Then he said- Si, lo creo.
~PROBLEM SOLVED~

Congrats. Hope you two have a happy relationship

Thank u guys..

You get em girl! Im happy to hear that you found someone you like; congratulations! (btw that first sentence I wrote sounds kinda gay, just to clarify im straight) I just get really exited when I hear stuff like this! (no homo).