Okay, I'm in a major panic as I write this to you, my fellow Dollars. My parents have been fighting almost every single time that they've come into contact with each other for the past month and since the 7th of April, my dad has been sleeping in our spare bedroom away from my mom. The problem is that my dad is a bit of a hothead always going and having little fits and temper tantrums whenever something doesn't go his way (Thankful that he doesn't get physical aside from breaking stuff) and my mom has been saying things about how she's had it with him and how she can't stand living with him anymore. I just need some advice on how to handle this whole fighting phase or help on how to handle a possible divorce.

Regards, Subarashi Shitai

I'll be honest with you - there's not much you can do except hope it's a phase.

In my opinion, you shouldn't try to stop their fighting, nor should you try to keep them from divorcing. If they can't stand each other, it would just be cruel and unusual to play the pitiful kid and try to get them to stay together (which some kids do). Don't get involved in their fighting. However, if either moves out or if there is a divorce, say that you want to visit them equally as much and want them to be civilized with one another while you and your other siblings are with them.

At least both of your parents are both alive...

>>3 This.

>>4 Was that necessary?

>>6 I reiterated Barabisama's advice as opposed to saying the same thing in my own words.
Sure, you could probably argue it down to completely unnecessary but then you would be digging yourself into a paradox. Why would you really want to do that?
Anyways, this has nothing to do with the current topic so I will stop defending my post now.

OP, what I meant when I said "this" is that you should take Barabisama's advice, she's correct in saying that you can't do much to stop their fighting. Try looking at it from a different perspective, maybe it's for the best?

>>7 Lol yah you just confused me. I just thought you were complaing about not having any parents so I was thinking how that may have been offensive to someone o_o sorry

mfw Chrome was confused, and thought that C.U.Never was talking about Barabi's post when C.U.Never was talking about Len's post. Which is why they put >>4 and not >>3 And now C.U.Never is not confused.

*C.U.Never is now confused. Not not. Goddamn it all.

>>9>>8 Whooooooops.

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/feelsdumb

>>9 lol o_O omg you confused me even more aaaahhhh *brain explosion* not not

>>12 Chrome thought you were talking about post 3. That's all. It's just a misunderstanding.

>>11 And you really need to look at the post numbers carefully.

My apologies. I think I'm going to fall in a hole now. VV

>>15 Lol its okay xD dont hurt yourself

Try to ignore them, and make the best out of it.

Pretty much what Bambi said.

Also, keep in mind that after X age (usually 12, sometimes 14), you get to legally choose which parent you stay with. So if one begins to act in a manner that you find unsafe or that makes you uncomfortable, you are always welcome to move in with the other one.

This is something I've done, and honestly I couldn't be happier. Both myself and my mother are happier away from my father. I understand that it may not be the same with you, but keep it in mind.

My side came from what WAS an equal custody deal, though. Which was fine, it kept everybody happy and nobody really got particularly angry over the whole situation, but I still preferred to be elsewhere.

Hope you get through this alright ^_^

I wouldn't give good advice cause my parents had one of the best divorces possible >.< sorry

Look,I want to tell you this:No matter what, you'll make it through.Divorces aren't all that bad, it just means your parents don't love eachother any more.This isn't your fault (damn I sound retarded...).They still love you. Just fight through it.It'll be okay.