alright, well for the last few days i been talking to this girl that is goes to the college as i do. she's really cute and we have some things that are similar. she's getting her degree in graphics design. she's like anime and plays some video games. the thing is i don't to get place in the friends zone nor do i want to scare her off. how long should i wait to ask her and how can i not be place in the friends zone.

I don't think any advice will be 100 percent guaranteed to work, but in my own personal experience (and that's a lot...surprisingly) the best route to go is hang around her for a week or so and see if you're really compatible. But you don't wanna make it seem like you wanna be 'just friends'

This is gonna sound real complicated, and once again, I'm just drawing from my own personal experiences. When you're hanging out with her causally 'flirt' with her. And not corny 'Wow, you're hot, let's date' kind of flirting. Like...situational flirting.

Example: If she likes to talk about her appearance or something, don't just say she looks good. This is gonna sound stupid, but give genuine feedback. If she asks what you would think if she did 'xyz' or whatever say something like 'hmm...that would look pretty good, but don't you think you look good enough as it is?' I dunno, that's how it was with my ex.

Now if you're not that kind of guy, that's cool too, not a lot of guys are and truthfully the world could do a lot better with less skirt chasers in my opinion. But you're trying to get the girl here, so let's focus on how to do that. Ask yourselves a series of questions before doing anything else.

1. How well do you know this girl? From what you wrote it sounds like you've known her for a few days. Like i said; give it a week at the least before you start thinking about pursuing anything.

2. Is she taken? I can't tell you how many times I've see people get shot down cuz a girl was seeing someone the dude didn't know about. (I've even been shot down a few times because of that)

3. Are you confident enough to go for a relationship? You can get all the advice you want but if you're not gonna do anything with it then it's all moot.

4. Can you see yourself as 'just friends' if it boils down to it? It may seem like admitting defeat, and essentially, that's what it is. But girls give a big thumbs up to a guy who suggests pursuing a relationship, gets rejected, then says 'That's cool, it was just an idea. we're still cool though, right?' who knows, she might even change her mind.

5. How 'real' are you around this girl? And how 'real' is she around you? It's no good if you're both just bsing from the start.

All and all, I can't really give much more without knowing much about the lady in question. and i don't even know if what I'm saying is any help or just repeated mess you've been hearing for a while now. Bottomline; be yourself, be there for her, make her feel happy. Put your chips on the table and make that gamble. Best of luck and I wish you all the best.

i know her for a few days. thanks for the help