Okay,First of all, I'm against dating at my age (12).
The problem is that my friend Alex who's been my best friend since 3rd grade-and now that we're in middle school, where for some reason, everyone decides that instead of 12 they're 18.So now, he's been asking me out.
I.Hate.Being.Asked.Out.And.Friend-zoning.People.
The first time this happened was in the beginning of the year and again today.
I specifically told him today that we were too young, maybe I would go out with him when we were older.
But the thing is he seemed so crushed.I felt terrible.
How do I deal with this?Please help. (I just realized I bitch on here way too much.)

Youth in my opinion should not be the entire reason for you to say no. If you feel as though your young age leaves you with an incomplete sense of responsibility or maturity, then that should be the reason to say no.

Emotion should be the ultimate deciding factor in deciding whether or not to start a relationship. I feel as though you are making the right decision and that you should wait until you are 3 years older at least. The age is up to you however. If you told him you wanted to wait and he seemed crushed then that shouldn't make you want to go out with him. That would be a relationship that already is set up for failure.

It seems as though you like this person, and the fact that you want to wait reveals a level of maturity I seldom see In kids your age. Waiting is probably the best thing because it lets you see if he truly likes you. One of the things you will come to learn is that all it takes for a kid to loose interest is time. Time and maybe the fact that they find someone else who attracts them further. If he waited that long to ask again, then his feelings seem sturdy enough for them not to be swayed as easily as I put it.

Keep in mind that he is young, and from the way you described easily saddened. Don't keep him hoping only to like someone else late. Tell him to wait only if you can see yourselves together later on. If you can't, its o.k. to be honest with him now. If you feel terrible about how you left him then that might show you that you either don't like to make people sad, or that you don't like to make him sad. Think carefully on that because at that age, it is easy to confuse the two and end up in a relationship off of false feelings.

If you truly are against dating at your age, then tell him that. Be honest and explain it to him. I personally hate getting vague rejections that leave me feeling confused, sad, and a little lonely. Don't be that person. I'm glad that you are taking his feelings into account, but unless you feel happy with the outcome, it is never going to work.

This is all I can say with what I was given. I hope this helps and that things work out for you. If I missed anything, or if I barely touched on a subject, or if I confused you even more, don't hesitate to ask.

>>2 Thank you, but theres another thing. 3 of my friends are telling me to do it. I told them off, explaining to them why. But they keep telling me just to do one date.One of them, told me to just go on one date on friday, and then "dump his sorry butt on monday.".Now, I don't think I need to explain why I didn't do that (seriously, such a a bitch move.).Now, I've never fell for peer-pressure, but how do I get them to understand that I don't want to do it?

>>3 "Either you stop telling me to treat my friend like shit, or you stop talking to me in general. I don't want to be friends with someone who tries to pressure me into doing anything I don't want to do, nevermind when it involves mistreating my friends."

They should get the point. To let it sink in better, don't wait for an answer. Walk away from them right after you say it. It would be best to do it at the end of the day while you're walking to buses or something.

>>5Thank you so much.I really hope this goes off without a hitch. Thankfully, the one who's being the pushiest I don't like that much so I don't exactly care if she decides not to be my friend afterwords.

>>5 This