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Love (10)

1 Name: rolling girl : 2012-04-04 20:05 ID:57J2zI9M [Del]

Okay, so let me just say this.
I'm afraid of love, and I need some help.
Why is this? Well, everyone I've ever loved has either died, left me, or betrayed me.Or worse, I end up hurting them.
I find that just about all of my problems lead back to this.
I'm afraid to love someone or trust someone.
How can I love someone if I can't even trust myself?I'm constantly worried that even if I can find someone I can trust, I'll end up hurting them.
I don't know what to do, can someone help me? I know I'm very young, but I still worry about this.
(btw, I don't think this is a duplicate thread because although there are a few sort of like this, but this one is my situation where I'm asking for help)

2 Name: Mikado : 2012-04-04 21:23 ID:/uLhTfYO [Del]

yeah me to the only person i liked she broke her legs and we cant talk that much anymore

3 Name: sleepology !CHs4eVJ3O2 : 2012-04-04 22:34 ID:SAKGUCOJ [Del]

would someone mind flipping a table for me onto >>2s head

4 Name: Mika : 2012-04-04 22:44 ID:WIW5z0Zr [Del]

My best friend is like this. It's a hard thing to deal with. but it all comes down to one thing... learning that you will get hurt from time to time, it sucks but its a part of life that we all must overcome to achieve the pursuit of happiness.
Getting emotionally hurt will always happen, but even your best friends with fight with you from time to time too, but you need to learn that its inevitable

5 Name: Raie~ : 2012-04-04 22:48 ID:dIt0Y+zu [Del]

>>3 lol okay :3 -flips table onto >>2 head- >:3
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Okay enough silly things, down to business ^^
M'dear. It is natural to feel this. Especially after being emotionally traumatized.
I know you might not being feeling this way, and in fact just asking yourself why am I feeling this and what is wrong with me shows it, but nothing really is.
I have had these feelings before too. Actually I share the same feelings with you to this very day, being afraid of love, perhaps trust, or perhaps a relationship. As long as I know I am free to be with and do what ever I want with anyone, I am content.
I put my logic out around my feelings and what I can conclude is that in the emotional and mental state that we both are in, we are not ready to proceed forth with another relationship/bond that may cut us open again.
The best thing is to not think about it. Love after all is a feeling. A peculiar thing, but it is only just a feeling. When you feel cautious and binned then it's not love.

Be within yourself for a while, let your inner being mend your heart, mind, soul and body. After all if you can't love yourself , you cannot love another. And love is trust. Therefor if you cannot trust yourself you cannot love.
I am not saying life will allow you to complete this to the fullest, because life is life and it will forever change and grow. But as you mend yourself alone side will be change and growth within you and you will mold yourself into a fresh new you. You will only change for the better. Change is good especially for the better good of your being.

So relax and take things slow with yourself, don't allow peers or even the voice into your head to tell you, you need outside love when you really just need to love yourself.
Relax. Breathe. and take things one at a time.

Hope I could help. <3

6 Name: Raie~ : 2012-04-04 22:49 ID:dIt0Y+zu [Del]

^Sorry it's so long doh~ ^ ^;

7 Name: sleepology !CHs4eVJ3O2 : 2012-04-05 01:20 ID:icPLcLAc [Del]

>>6 if its good theres no need to apologize. Ive yet to read it so i dunno if it is or not.. but i have faith in you young jedi

8 Name: rolling girl : 2012-04-05 05:09 ID:57J2zI9M [Del]

>>5 Thank you so much,I'll try my best.

9 Name: Art Matters : 2012-04-05 09:05 ID:b95Q8ro/ [Del]

The more you worry the less time you have to be true to yourself, get out there and get it done.

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