I'm fairly passive in my day to day life. I have problems getting to my classes in the morning because sometimes I'll just feel tired and just...well, I want to get up and do things, but another part of me doesn't, so I end up thinking about how much I want to get up and then going back to sleep. I can never get myself to do homework until there's barely any time left, and then I sluggishly do it, and often turn in incomplete homework. I rarely take notes in class, although I'm good at learning fast, so I don't really hurt much for that. However, I barely pay attention in class...and honestly, whenever I do take notes I end up really only taking them to keep myself from falling asleep or something like that. While I hang out with my friends often, I don't really do much with them. I usually just sort of sit there and spectate. My friends play lots of video games (we're all a bunch of geeeeks) and I usually don't play with them, I just end up watching. I pretty much don't talk with girls, ever, unless they're family. While it's quite normal for guys like me to like girls, I feel uncomfortable about it. I don't talk to girls simply because I know that I'm only going to talk to them to...well, y'know, try to get a relationship with some sort, and that makes me feel like some kind of predator. I feel guilty for being attracted to girls. I'm a college student, a sophomore majoring in computer science, who gets about a B average in classes, and I'm kind of miserable. Online I often RP with other people on IRC, it was freeform or with made up rules for a long time, although recently I've branched out into actually doing some formal tabletop stuff, although I had to go to another roleplaying group than my old standard one for that. I keep feeling my old group is getting kind of stale.
>>2 Well, that's a nice suggestion and all, but do you have any advice on...well, motivating myself, then? I mean, if I'm having all these problems that stem from that, obviously that means I have problems motivating myself in the first place.
Woohoo, this stuffs. I'm just gunna pitch a few things at you, see if you can't use 'em!
1) Go to sleep sooner. This sounds kinda silly, yeah, but I noticed something in myself. When I go to sleep later, I never want to get up in the mornings. Not only that, but I ACTUALLY do slack off in my classes. I find it difficult to focus, and I generally despise the idea of doing anything that requires thought.
I'm serious about this, despite how basic it seems. I've noticed this change in myself, and the cause of it, so I'm trying to make myself sleep sooner (despite all of the interesting things on the internet at night. I blame Breadu).
2) To help with your interest in school, make a conscious effort to have a relationship with your teachers. Now, don't get the wrong idea, there's nothing sexual about this. But if you make friends with them and talk about the subject outside of class time, you can find out a lot of interesting information and actually become more interested in the classwork.
Again, something I've done myself. I did it in my physics classes, which bored me to begin with. I ended up talking with my teacher after class a couple of times, and learned a lot about how I can apply those things to my own career choice. Not only that, but he ended up pushing me to some extremes. I was given problems that were two or three times the difficulty that other students were given, just because he wanted to challenge me. I still aced the class.
3) Try not to think of girls as being there JUST for a relationship. Make friends with ones that you don't find physically attractive, and that should help. Really, it just comes down to your perspective. It may very well change if you just make a few more female friends, and ignore the thought of a relationship altogether.
4) I'm not really sure what to say about your videogame deal, though. Part of me wants to say that it's somewhat due to lack of sleep.
Honestly, being tired causes a shitton of problems. Or so I've noticed. Some days I'll skip out on hanging out with friends just because I want to sleep in. Lame, but it's the truth.
Lots of things can help with energy though, not just sleep. There're a bunch of foods that can help, but I'm not a dietitian so I have no idea what they would be.
