>>9 You're misunderstanding entirely, and probably inadvertently showing your more selfish feelings on the matter through your poor word choice. Pay attention, at least to cover yourself.
You say you understand her feelings, but do you really? You sound obsessed, rather than amorous, which would be completely detrimental to your relationship unless you learned to get over yourself. It's a feeling akin to possessiveness, and you're bound to be wracked with drama one way or another until you realize this.
Maybe she doesn't feel the same way. Is that such a bad thing? It doesn't mean she
never will, and even if she doesn't, do you really have to treat it like you
lost?
You're still friends with her. Isn't that enough for now? If you let your selfish feelings get ahead of you, you're going to miss out on what could be a great platonic friendship.
What bothers me here is your diction, as I said earlier, though:
"i don't want to give her up like an old toy"
Pardon?Is that really how you view her? A toy that you're
discarding?
I am actually against you getting together with her, if you're treating relationships like this. Consider it from a more equal standpoint, and not from your self-centered point of view, for once.
The situation isn't
"I'm not going to get together with her at this rate..."
it's
"She doesn't seem to have the same feelings for me, even though I do for her."
No matter how much you act like you know it's the latter, you treat it like the former. And that's disgusting. If you really like her, prioritize her feelings over your own, and for god's sake don't
angst about it as if she's deliberately hurting you.