I've decided to leave myself Anonymous mainly because this is not something I'm trying to brag about, I'd like like some different opinions on this. If you can guess who I am, cool, I don't care. If not, same thing.

My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly a year now (in 1 week is our anniversary). She's 15 and I'm 14. We seem young for such a long relationship and many would try and argue that it's not even a real relationship by now, especially with the fact that she lives across the country from me. An online relationship for that long? Get real!
Well, it is true online relationships, particularly with my age group, tend not to last. But let me get slightly emotional here.

I had an online relationship for a year before that, too, with a nice boy not too far from me, but far enough to where we never met each other face to face. I was convinced I loved him, and after a year we broke up because I felt he didn't love me anymore (mentioning other girls around me, not telling me he loves me as often, bullshit like that). In all reality, we were just really good friends, not lovers. We still talk to this day and agree that neither of us were in love, even if we thought what we felt was love. Neither of us had good friends in real life, so we thought a strong friendship equals love.

Of course, then there's the lecture on, "Sexual feels don't mean love!" Strongly agreed. I know I'm young, but I'm not a virgin, one of my friends got carried away with me and she... you know where I'm going. It wasn't intended. I thought that was love and we dated for a short time until I realized all I liked was the new feeling of sexual pleasure. We broke up after that.

tl;dr- My point is, I'm trying to tell you guys that even though I'm young and don't have a lot of experience in the relationship world, I know enough to tell that I wasn't in love with my exes.

Slowly, without knowing it, a crush grew for her, and I was unaware of it until she confessed to me. I was shocked. I was afraid to tell her because she was with someone at the time, and I didn't want to force them apart. It turns out her girlfriend was a psychotic, controlling chick who had no tact for anyone else (I knew her myself). She told me she's been thinking about being with me for many months now and I felt the same. Everything went well for about 5 months, when things got out of hand- I was becoming controlling and she was pressured by former friends to break up with me. For a month we were separated, and during that month, we both realized how miserable life was without each other, even as friends. We barely talked and it was painful.

Finally, we couldn't take it any longer and got back together. It was then I realized I was in love for the first time. Never, ever would I miss someone as much as I missed her, but I am thankful for that break-up, for if I didn't I wouldn't have realized.

Shortly after this, I was filled with confidence. My love for her was so strong, I was sick of keeping it a secret. I told my family, and then I told the world. I came out, and everyone accepted (of course, with a few lectures, but that was expected). And after talking with my parents, they approved to let us meet during our Spring break. We're going to meet face to face in merely 11 days.

We're the kind that are best friends. I can tell her absolutely everything and anything, and trust she will support me by telling me her honest opinion and tips. She's always there for me when I'm lonely and there when I'm excited about something and need to ramble to someone. She makes me smile, and she told me I'm the only reason she feels so happy nowadays. I'm also good friends with her parents; her mom loves me and her dad, too. My grandparents love her, but especially my mom- in fact, they even text each other.. It's funny. My dad is slowly warming up to her.


My question is, do you feel everything is going good, for an online relationship, at least? At my age, too?

I have a brother, who is 19 years old & lives in the United States, who is dating a 17 year old European girl and they have been dating for about 2 and a half years. I see no problem with anyone dating online. :l

I wonder if its going to crash and burn once your expectations of each other dont match what you have thought up in your little heads.
Do be kind enough to inform us of the results.

>>3

We video chat nearly every week, we know each other inside out. Her mom is beyond excited to meet me and such, so I don't see how it'd end up how we east expect it.

Though, I will inform you all how it turns out.

>>3 That was entirely uncalled for. Being cynical is one thing, and being outright pessimistic is another.

I've stated this philosophy before, about people differentiating between online and in-person relationships, be it merely acquaintanceship or dating: There is hardly a difference. Unless you're only in it for the physical pleasure, there is no difference between communicating with someone over a distance and in the same room, given modern technology.

If you've already been talking a lot, and you're both honest with each other in that respect, then I see no problems. I've known people who carry out long distance relationships successfully - it isn't impossible.

>>5

Thank you. It's hard to explain that to parents, since they didn't grow up with such technology/meet their spouses online, and their points of views are more difficult to reverse. My father was the only one drilling this on me; he didn't understand and told me online relationships were impossible (not nearly impossible, but flat out impossible), and it was eating at me for a while now. My mom told me he was just still in his little denial phase, in both the fact I'm 'grown up' to him now, and that I'm lesbian.
I'm pretty sure that's the case. I guess I just wanted to see what other people thought.

>>5 i said i wondered if, not that i was sure. For all i knew they were the best of friends years and years ago, or as they stated as a reply to my thing actually skyped with each other. Yes there was a distinctly negative additude towards, but i wasnt outright saying ohho this is going to fail n your a moron for thinking otherwise. No, i was just saying with the information present and with my idea of how an average online relationship is, the possibility in my opinion was not miniscule enough to be ignored.
If you need clarification or for me to apologize for being overly blunt and rude with my thoughts, then please feel free to say so.

Personally, I DO think you are a bit young, but since it's working out, and you do truly feel you love her, then I believe that it's going very well, especially for an online relationship.

In love there is no right or wrongs.
Online relationship, does it matter as long as you two are happy?
Do as you please.
Let's say it turns out bad later on, then face reality and don't regret anything later on since it will be able to develop you as a person. Learn through experience.
Sorry, got a little out of the topic, I hope it'll help you.