I found myself reading this and really relating to what you said.

With my boyfriend things were similar. We've been friends since we were little and he used to toy with my emotions all the time, one day he'd like me one day he wouldn't. Sometimes I wonder if he knew how much he was hurting me. It was like that for years and when we finally started dating, it was like he didn't care. He was totally indifferent.

For me there was no one else like him and "I'm too fucking strange fo anyone else"

Everything changed this year. I broke up with him (hardest thing I've ever done) and we were apart for a little over a month. We were still friends, we talked everyday sat together at lunch, but we weren't girlfriend/boyfriend and during that time I actually dated someone else.

He actually talked to me and proposed getting back together and I was single at the time and said yes almost immeadiately, because well I love him.

Our relationship is actually really good now. He acts like he cares, he shows more of his feelings, and he's really an amazing boyfriend. We've been dating again for a while and everythings great.

I'm not saying this is what will happen if you break up with him, I'm just using it as an example. Maybe if you spent some time apart he'd realize how much you really mean to him. You might even be ok without him, I can promise you inner strength really shines through when the one you love is just out of reach.

If he nothing changes maybe its not worth fixing, but i'm just trying to help a fellow dollar.

The world isn't as bad as you think -$

Different people have different ways of showing love. I used to really like a guy...he did that "test" thing a lot. One time he actually made me cry myself to sleep because he faked saying he didn't love me anymore. I thought he was serious.. Whwn he saw how much it hurt me, he apologized and said he would never do it again.

Wow...that's amazing. But the problem is...if he doesn't react,if nothing changes.....I just don't know what I'll do.He's my only friend at school,and if he stops that,I mean....I don't know what I'll do.
But thank you! Thank you sooooo much! It really,really does help!

Blah,>>4 I meant to put >>2 on there.

>>4 Your welcome, sometimes friendships can survive break ups, mine did. Maybe nothing will change, but maybe thats good. Try branching out and making new friends. I used to have NO friends at all, but things get better as you get older and now I have a really great group of close friends. Glad what I wrote actually helped.

Well. He broke up with me.
Nevermind.

He said he was "sick and tired of me being in control."
But.. I never was in control.
He was.
He always was.
The things he did always was the thing that changed what was going on.
I never did any of it,it was all him....

Either way, it's obvious he doesn't respect you, your feelings or your wishes. Your happiness was obviously not his priority.

I have to suggest that you avoid anyone who behaves like that. People who play puppetmaster games are poison to the psyche. You REALLY ARE better off without him.

I want you, right now, to mentally toss away anything he ever said to you - anything he claimed he was teaching you, anything his actions made you think about yourself, him, or the world around you - toss it like trash. Because it is. It's just the leftovers from his little 'game'. It's all poison in your brain.

You could spend years wondering what he meant, or what he really thought, this and that - or, right now, you could realise that it was all insincere anyway, and not worth the worry. His thoughts and feelings aren't worth pondering. Maybe they will be someday, upon gaining the wisdom and maturity to know better than to behave like a sociopathic little brain-gremlin, but for now he's a sociopathic little brain-gremlin. Don't take what he says to heart, because it's probably what he wants you to do. Instead, do what's good for YOU. :3

You were obviously being used and abused. He never really cared about you and really was just the type of person who wanted to see others struggle. The ultimate would be you reacting to him leaving you of course.

ur should probaly dump his ass if he doesnt care about u

>>11 He broke up with her.

I honestly think that kind of guy doesn't deserve /any/ girlfriend. He's a sociopath, if he tries to contact you, don't ever listen to him, dude. If this ever happens again though, I suggest you take the situation into your hands and tell someone you really trust and care about, someone who would care in turn.

Let me tell you a few things.
1) If a person doesn't treat you right, then they are not too good for you.
2) There was a lot of things he could have done if the thought you cut yourself. He could have shown concern and worried about you.
3) You are not too weird to make any new friends. Nobody is too weird to make any new friends.
4) It is not your fault for "being easily manipulated". Anyone, even me, can be manipulated. It isn't even your fault for being "over emotional". I'm a person who cuts myself off from the world and hides behind multiple masks to protect myself, keep people from judging me, and so no one knows who I really am. Even with all of that to protect myself and being paranoid about someone using my emotions against me and toying with me, because it's happened before, I could have still fallen for that.
5) You are an amazing person. Don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. I've learned that a long time ago. I am me and you are you. Don't let anyone change that because being unique is what makes you better than any of those followers. The fact that you can be you makes you amazing.

I agree with what everyone has pretty much. Though, you can trust me when I say that guy will contact you again just to see how you react. For him it wasn't just "testing" you that he liked. It was the response he got and he'll want more of it if no one else responds the same way you do. My ex-boyfriend was really into the psychology stuff and that's probably why he even started dating me was because the fact I was different than other girls he knew. Part of me believes thats what it was. For guys like him and your ex its all about the responses they get.

Well.

Even if he can turn around or whatever and suddenly start being compassionate?

Is it really worth it if he was the scummiest bastard to begin with? You shouldn't have to work to make someone act like a god damned human being towards you. He sounds like a misogynist, or just someone with a superiority complex in the first place.

Contrary to popular belief, romance does not require that much drama. Simply put, if someone is acting like a manipulative bastard, especially to you specifically, you need to let them know that as a friend, or cut ties. Love takes up less of one's life than people assume it needs to - don't prioritize your feelings over your well-being.

Ah crap, I had something written, then saw he broke up with you. Enh, there goes another 15 minutes I should have spent working on homework. Anyways, some of what I wrote is still relevant, so here you go. Hopefully it helps.

It sounds like two things are happening.
The first: He found the results of the Milgram experiment of obedience quite intriguing and is doing it to you.
The second: Social Psychology has found that humans have pretty durable emotions. That is, life changing events(like losing an arm) don't seriously affect overall happiness years after the event. When it happens you think your life will come to an end and everything is shit, but give it a few months a statistically significant majority get over whatever event it was that was so "traumatizing".

Oh, and the short version of the Milgram experiment is that of some subjects, 65% of them were willing to commit murder because an authority figure told them to. The whole thing is a really interesting read, and it is relevant because Milgram also used the titles "Teacher" and "Learner".

I read this, and all i could think was, "Why the hell are women so stupid when it comes to men?"

Fuck... I mean, come on.

Why let you get you down? Sure hes a guy.. you love him, but if hes going to constantly fuck with you... why put up with it? Like I always say.. you may think there is ONLY one guy for you until something like this happens and you start rethinking it all.

Okay,now I'm confused....now he's saying he would never break up with me and it was all just another test....why is he so fucking confusing??
Oh well....guys just forget you ever stumbled across this thread,and don't bump it and ignore it. Kay?

Ugh,>>19 I mean *JUST ignore it