should i wait for a girl or should i put myself out there?

put yourself out there. how will girls know your availble if you dont go ahead and ask.

say it tell them put yourself way out there kiss her if you have to

>>3 No! That's stupid. If you just kiss her, she will scream/hit you/feel like she's being sexually assaulted. Neku, don't listen to him. Tell her and put yourself out there, but don't do anything physical. That should be obvious -__-

>>4 This.

how does one put their self out there? im not really good at it

>>6 *How does one put themselves out there? I'm not very good at it.

Just be outgoing. Venture outside of your comfort zone to meet people (this is me assuming you don't have a girl in mind). Generally just be you, and don't be afraid to ask someone for a date or something if you end up liking them.

If you go advertising yourself, though, you will be forever alone. You can't just wave a flag and expect someone to follow you :T Gotta provide actions that meet their interests, and your own.

>>7 so just be myself, but i really don't have the confidence to talk to girls. it's kinda hard for me.

You dont have to have this so called confidence to talk to girls. Seems like youre just making it up as you go along.

>>8, >>9 is kinda correct.

And, as I just said, you need to venture outside of your comfort zone. It's like jumping off of a cliff with a bungee cord, metaphorically speaking. You're not exactly going to be comfortable doing it, nor confident in the idea of jumping to your doom, but you have to jump if you want the experience.

It's tough, but it gets easier as you go along.

Come on guys, we girls aren't scary! Okay, well...maybe a bit... But no girl worth your time is going to do anything frightening if you just talk to her~

Pfff tsu youre the scariest thing alive. Besides nature.

Anyways because I have yet to contribute really anything to this specific thread:
If you wait for a girl, nothing is going to happen. You are going to be left alone because they will think either A. youre gay B. your not interested in them or C. your a potential nutcase who relies on the pity of others so they stay quiet n distant no matter what
If you put yourself out there if nothing else you may make some friends. So what if a girl rejects you, big woopdie frickin doo! Maybe she likes you for you n you get a brand new buddy whos totally awesome n things n stuff n words.

Basically, all the comments that say to move out of your comfort zone. Girls don't bite, plus if you wait, you'll end up like me. -coughalonefortoolongcough-. If you fear friendzone, don't. It's just something in life.

>>12 Well I know THAT already. But I'm not, strictly speaking, a girl.

thanks for all the help. it really has open my mind. i will be working on it.

I know is not easy to be outgoing immediately, but you can't just wait. You can do it step by step, just smile to the girls and say hi to them at the beginning. And maybe you can join some groups or clubs then you well find some girls sharing the same interests with you and talk to them(I think it's easier to talk to the people who have the same hobbies with me ^_^).

>>16 thanks for the help

>>8 Keep it in your pants.

>>18 This.

>>18 i don't mean that.
>>19 i wasn't talking about that

>>20 I was joking lol Then again, though, it is good advice. Some guys are a little too quick on the physical aspect.

But, yeah. To my opinion. I don't think you should advertise yourself, nor do I think you should hide around in the shadows and wait. Just be yourself. If there's a girl you like, get to know her over time, confess, and see if she'll go out with you. If not, then move on.

>>21 ok thanks for your advice

>>21 I disagree. Hiding in the shadows and waiting is a great way to get a girl, and if you don't like her in the end you can ransom her off to her family instead.
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Ugh. I have the same problem T.T
However! I've been told I give great advice when it comes to dating!
However most of my stuffs have already been said...:(
O well here's something on the fly:
Try to find someone who you've never ever talked to/known about/figured yourself talking to them and (check this out) talk to them!
Isn't that one of the cliché statements? Opposites attract?

>>24 thanks for the help

If you're in high school, put yourself as out in the open as possible. Because High school relationships are meaningless trash heaps of drama that are only driven by sexual attraction. So, ask out every girl you find attractive, the odds are in your favor if you aren't some disgusting pig. Then its a cakewalk from there. You just gotta have confidence.

When you get into college, for the first 2 years it'll most likely be nothing but meaningless intimate encounters, similar to HS, but that isn't always the case, maybe you'll get lucky and get into a lasting relationship early on. But try to stay away from that, it might affect your academic performance. In the later years in college, you'll look more to settle down. This is where you -really- have to put yourself out there. Girls aren't looking for some hook-up at this point, you gotta prove to them you're the man they're looking for.

That's all I got... Since I haven't gotten that further than that in the game. I'm stuck in the -too many essays- dungeon. And I'm afflicted with the -drinking too much- ailment. So yeah. Good luck.

>>26 well im in college and so far i haven't had any lucky. it's my second year and im doing my best, but i don't if im doing something wrong