>>63 Yes, the existence of being attacked is unavoidable. Yes, people doing bad things is a fact of life. It is going to happen regardless in one instance or another. I have a feeling your mindset is on par with someone who believes that world peace and everyone loving one another is possible. It's lovely, and I would adore for it to be so, but it's just not possible. Unless we kill off all but a select few people who unconsciously have continued love towards everything, bad things are going to happen in the world. It's a fact of life that bad people exist.
You're a romantic. I'm a realist. That's probably why this portion of the debate isn't going anywhere, which is alright. It's hard to have an debate reliant on a lack of bias when the two debating have very different morals.
And no, you lose money on the market from things much more than the quality of your product. Sometimes even a slight rumor can cause a market to crash (hence the SM crash just before the Great Depression). It's often not the fault of a bad product. Sometimes it wasn't advertised well. Sometimes they just don't have enough investors to finish researching or creating the product. There are all sorts of nuances that go along with it, just like this situation.
And you don't get hurt just because people want to hurt you. There has to be a reason for that want, that desire. Sometimes it's a psychological problem on their end, but often times it is our own fault. I will sit here and admit that every time I was bullied, it was my own fault in a twisted way. I didn't dress how normal girls dressed. I talked how I wanted to talk. I was an individual, even though I knew it wasn't going to be appreciated in our society and would cause people to talk bad about me and pull shit that never should have happened. Does that change that the people who harassed me are
complete dickwads? No. But turning around and blaming everyone else for something that you had a great deal of control over isn't okay. Playing the 100% innocent victim in a situation like this is wrong. I could have worn makeup, dressed scantily, and gone out with every guy who asked me out. But I chose not to. That choice is in part what caused me to be 'bullied'. It was the right choice, but you really need to take social standings into consideration. My own morals are not the same as society's, but society's are the ones that apply in an argument of fault.
Bullying and abuse is a part of life. If you don't want to face it, then either steer clear of those who are cruel or don't do something that could cause you to be made fun of. Those of us who are willing to dress how we want either put up with or fight against the abuse because we know its our choice to be in that situation and are willing to stick up for ourselves anyway. When you can't accept that something you've done has caused your situation and blame it on all the 'bullies' and everyone who is mean to you, though, people like this are born. People who give up halfway through are created out of this idea that the attacker is always in the wrong. They see themselves at the victims at every corner, and they can't get out of this pit of victimhood because everyone who feels sorry for them is telling them that they 'have no control over it' when they damn well have control over most of what happens to them. They don't realize that they made that choice and thus have no grounds to stand up for themselves on. They have no true argument to back up their side of the debate and thus lose the ability to fight on their own behalf.
Of course, that applies to standard bullying only. Bullying is a regular thing that you're going to face at every turn in your life. You're going to have mean bosses. You're going to have coworkers who spread rumours about you. It's not right, but it'll happen at some point in your life unless you are so cautious about it that you sacrifice your own unique self to be so and/or just naturally have a personality that everyone loves. Again, although you may not agree with me, it's just how people are - it's just how life is. Yes, there should be resources to help students and people who are bullied and take it too harshly. But this whole movement that has now moved to internet conversations is killing any potential of these kids being able to take even light criticism in their futures.
Rape, on the other hand, isn't something normal. It's not usual. It's not legal. It isn't an integrated part of our society. Criminal charges should always be pressed, regardless of the genders of the attacker/victim. But if you are in an extreme situation like stated above where you know there is an extremely high chance of you getting raped, and if you chose to put yourself in that situation without any extenuating circumstances, then you damn well had a small sliver of the fault of what happened. It doesn't mean they are any less in the wrong for attacking you - it just means that, in hindsight, what happened could have been avoided if you made the right choices.
A man running a construction site decides to have his men working on the lower balconies of a tall building while another crew is installing the beams higher up, optimistically assuming that nobody would get hurt since the chances were so low. An hour later when he goes to check on the progress of the balcony, a beam falls from the crane and hits one of the men, killing him. It is easy to write this off as an accident. If you feel the need to put blame on everything, though, there is quite a bit of blame here. First of all, the man shouldn't have said that they should go work that day when construction was going on in the upper levels; he oughta have told the owner of the land that they would reschedule it. Second, the men shouldn't have agreed to work under those circumstances. Third, the crane handler should have been more careful. So one third of the fault is on the victim since he decided to work in that situation. Yes, he needed the money. So he prioritized his money over his safety. That was his choice, and for it, he ended up dead. He's not the only one at fault, but he shares the blame since it was still his choice to go up there.
In the end... coulda, shoulda, woulda. We can't change the past or what happened. We all have mistakes and regrets that we learn from in the future. There is really no reason to be pointing fingers, because for that blame to be valid, the fault still has to split up into all its related parts. I pointed the finger at Todd's parents, but when you think about it, both Todd and the bullies had a large part in it as well.
